In the bible I Have not come across too many men that God said to them that they marry someone directly. I wonder if the "old heads" are right when they say God will send you a wife or husband. This one woman waited for over all her life before she got a husband but it was over twenty years later. I dont think its like that...cant find too much to support this in the bible either.....
2007-02-14 14:05:36 · 19 answers · asked by EyeKneadPoints 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Husband or wife.
2007-02-14 14:06:02 · update #1
you can choose your spouse if you want, but it's best to go by God's principles.....
1) Marry someone of the OPPOSITE gender who is not in another romantic or sexual relationship, and who is not a familt member
2) Christians aren't to marry non-Christians. No matter what you think, if you have a child, that child will be drawn between your two beliefs. If you don't have a child, one spouse'll be frustrated that the other doesn't value their beliefs enough to convert to Christianity, and there will also be a spiritual unbalance in that home: "do not be unequally yolked with unbelievers" "what fellowship does God have with Satan?"
3) try to pick someone you won't have too much conflict with, and who is comfortable with living sexually pure (no abuse, no adultery, etc)
but since God's omniscient, then He'll know who's right for you. I guess He'd tell you if you ask according to His will...
2007-02-14 14:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Hey, Ray 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm just curious as to how someone can wait for "over all her life." I didn't know that was possible. and the woman still got a husband. damn, and it was only over twenty years later. must have had a pretty short life expectancy.
2007-02-14 14:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion God is a spirit. When you believe in GOD your actually believeing in your self. Several hundred years ago the first book was written in England to stop the turmoil, what you call the bible was a meaning one person percieved from the first book. Each time one read the first one recieved a different meaning each time, so if your waiting for a spirit to get a wife. FORGET IT. You need to date females to see if the both of you are compatible and love each other on a natural basis.
2007-02-14 14:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The people I knew who thought God would "give" them a husband or wife are still single 5-8 years later. They never took any proactive steps to meet eligible singles, to pursue relationships, or anyting. They just sat around passively thinking a spouse would drop into their laps without any effort on their part.
You need to be proactive - God created you with free will and a rational mind.
2007-02-14 14:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sass B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I started praying for my wife shortly after I became a Christian. I didn't know who she was, but I knew God knew. I prayed for her for years, and wrote the prayers in my journal.
I went to Brazil as a short-term missionary, and the day that I saw her, I knew it was her. I wrote in my journal that she seemed like the woman of my dreams. It wasn't really love at first sight- it was just recognizing the woman that I had been praying for for so long. I didn't tell her how I felt until about a year and a half later, when I asked her to marry me. We never even held hands until we were engaged.
Now, 14 years of marriage later, she is still the woman of my dreams. It is worth it to wait on the Lord, and to pray, and trust Him to give you the right one. The Lord wants to bless you more than you even want the blessing, and when you have the faith to wait on Him, He will bless you beyond your wildest dreams.
2007-02-14 14:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by HolyLamb 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you do not begin looking, HE may give you the leftovers. I would suggest that you begin at Church. If you are not going, maybe HE will be better able to fulfill your needs there. I would suggest that you look for a woman of character that attends on a regular basis and gets along well with others. Have a great evening.
Good Hunting,
Eds
2007-02-14 14:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Free will,nothing in the Bible says you must get married or you must not. Find the one who know is right, you'll know when if you are sincere. Pray about it. I think Paul had it right when he suggested you stay single. If you can, that would be good, if not, go ahead and get married (to another Christian) don't marry outside the faith or you will be SORRY.
2007-02-14 14:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I recommend you read I Corinthians chapter 7 and ask God where you fit into the picture. I am assuming you have a heart and mind to live for God and put Him first in your life.
2007-02-14 14:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
God already decided whats your life will become like before you were born. He already pick who's your husband or wife. its our duty to work towards it and make it work.
2007-02-14 14:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by farina m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, I don't thing that God is going to take a rib from you and make a wife for you. He tried that before. You are going to have to just be yourself and go to church, talk to the women there your age, and take it from there.
2007-02-14 14:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋