I am a junior in college, and my boyfriend is a sophomore. He goes to notre dame and i'm at a small school in VA. We are from the same hometown so we see each other on breaks. I have visited him twice since he started college and he hasn't visited me once. My dad also flew him up as a bithday present with me to MN to go to a U2 concert. Even with this, whenever he asks his parents if he can visit me they always make excuses as to why he can't go: they need to see his grades first, It's almost the end of the year and we'll see each other soon, tickets are too expensive. It seems like the same old thing. I have plenty of miles I even offered to let him use my miles and his parents still said no to him visiting me. Is it a personal thing? They seem to really like me otherwise. It just doesn't add up. I am starting to get discouraged and am wondering if he'll ever get to visit while we're in college since his parents keep making excuses as to why he can't visit me.
2007-02-14 13:56:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to them and ask them
2007-02-14 13:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, how old is he? He's in college and his parents are still treating him like he's in high school...Im not kidding I had to read your story like 3 times to be sure its college he goes to. Are you sure its his parents? Maybe he's just putting the blame on them so that he doesnt have to be honest with you. I dont know, either way you need to talk to him about this and tell him to get some balls and tell his parents he's not a kid anymore. Its hard enough to have a long distance relationship and if he really cares about you, he'll do something about it. Just hang in there.
2007-02-14 22:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, it's hard to say. Definitely not a great situation, but it could be more that his parents don't like the idea of you than you as a person. They might think he's too young to be very serious with a girl, and they might really want him to focus on his grades.
Maybe you could ask him how his parents feel about you and why he thinks they act this way. He probably has more insight than I do.
Good luck!
2007-02-14 22:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure its his parents and not him. Maybe he met someone else and you don't know it. he just saying his parents won't let him cause he really doesn't want to go. I would rethink your relationship with him. If your doing all the work of visiting him do you really want that in the future. for you to tend to his needs instead of him coming to you when you need the help.
2007-02-14 22:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his parents are thinking that since both of you are in College, you should be concentrating on that.
Talk to the parents.
2007-02-14 22:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by La_Nore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be good when that boy makes his own money...sucks to be controlled. He needs to get a life...his OWN life.
2007-02-14 21:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋