the women carrying my child and i do not get along. she is threatening to not include me on the birth certificate. can she actually do this? she also wants to keep me from being a part of the childs life. Is this at all possible?
2007-02-14 13:55:48 · 9 answers · asked by charlie's slam pigs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can demand a paternity test at your county child support enforcement agency. If you ARE the father though, you WILL have to pay support, but they'll add you to the birth certificate. Then, you go to court (get a pro-se lawyer if you have to. Ask for info at the courthouse) and hash out visitation rights. If she STILL refuses to let you see the child, you will have to take her back to court, but you must STILL pay support during that time! Just letting you know what to expect.
Good luck! So many fathers would rather abandon their children. If your ex doesn't get along with you, that's one thing...but the child deserves a father, so unless there's some real reason that she doesn't want you to see this baby...hey, more power to ya!
2007-02-14 14:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not married to her she can. My friend did it. (although not out of spite. The father wanted nothing to do with the child.) If you're not married then it is the mother that decides what name goes on the birth certificate, even if the father is present when it is being filled out. As far as possibly obtaining some level of custody, it is possible, but you'll need a good lawyer. Supervised visitation is a very common outcome for the father in this situation. Judges and the court system are supposed to be for what's best for the child, but many judges and the court system in general have been shown to favor the mother in cases like this. If you think the difficulties a divorced father faces when trying to get some level of custody with his child are bad at times, I can say from experience that it's even worse for the father when he was never married to his baby's mother. There is still a chance though and if you truly feel that you would make a good parent to that child then I would fight like hell to be in his/her life. Good luck!
2007-02-14 13:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The birth certificate info. gets filled out in the hospital after she has the baby. If you are not there when they present her with the paperwork she can leave your name off the birth certificate. You can still be ajudicated the father which will give you visitation rights and also make you responsible to pay child support. It will establish paternity though. The only way she can keep you out of the child's life is if you are unfit as a father (due to drug abuse or have a criminal record like domestic violence). Most judges though would still give you supervised visitation. The court system is there to help do what is best for the child and not to accommodate one parent or the other...
Good luck. I am glad to hear that you want to be in your child's life. I was abandoned at 6 weeks pregnant. He never wanted our child until afterward he wanted to see my child because he had to pay support...
2007-02-14 14:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly she would be in a position to leave the gap for the call of the father clean or write N/A. no longer anybody places the call of the father on the beginning certificates for many motives. i stay in VA and that i comprehend a pair people who have not positioned the father on the beginning certificates for their own motives. no longer putting him on the beginning certificates by using fact she does not have a robust dating with him is not any reason. i comprehend that she is disturbing that he could cope with the youngster the comparable way as he does her yet she cant with the help of regulation save the youngster far off from his father. this is the comparable element as though he did that to her protecting the toddler way, etc. this is for the prefer to make certain down the line. She could additionally be hurting the youngster down the line too. i might nonetheless positioned his call on the beginning certificates see how he acts around the toddler and in the direction of the toddler and then if he nonetheless appearing like a butt then bypass to courtroom.
2016-09-29 03:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened with my daughter's boyfriend's dad apparently. Poor kid is 17 and has never known or even seen his dad. I don't know what name his mom put on the birth certificate, and I don't even know if that man ever knew he had a child. The mom told her kid that the father didn't want anything to do with him. It's really sad, because this young boy is really sweet and wonderful. He must get the trait from his dad, because his mother is a _____.
I don't care what you have to do, but don't give up and please stay in this child's life one way or another. Good luck!
2007-02-14 14:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want to be a part of your child life then get help now don't wait. She might try to keep you out but you have rights too. Go to social service and ask for help. what ever happen between you and her needs to not keep you from being a father to your child. best of luck
2007-02-14 14:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by barb.douglas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get a lawyer, and fight to see and Legally BE the baby's dad...she cant keep you from the baby, its yours too!
2007-02-14 13:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can. You're not married and that changes everything.
2007-02-14 14:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask Anna Nicole....oh wait you can't
2007-02-14 14:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋