ok... This guy has asked me to go out with him for about a year now..but I've always had a boyfriend or just broke up with one soo It never seemed to work..so I decided to go out with him since it was valentines day..Well everything was going great I was haveing a really great time..But then he asked me to marry him..And i thought he was jokeing and laughed..well he got mad and brought me home..(so now it's ten o'clock one valentines day and I'm at home with my lil sis) I have really started to like this guy..how am I supposed to deal with this?
2007-02-14 13:50:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really didn't mean to laugh..I thought he was joking..and I am not emotionally immature. I've just always been a very care free person and if somebody says something funny I laugh..I wasn't laughing at him..just his question I thought it was a joke
2007-02-14 14:08:36 · update #1
Well, if he asked you to marry him on your first real date and got mad when you didn't take him seriously, don't get involved with him.. he has the potential to be a possessive psycho... believe me, I've went out with one before...
and if he is a psycho like I think he is, don't listen to the other people's advice about telling him you're sorry and give him a second chance, b/c that's what he wants... and then it's all downhill from there... seriously, don't act like he's just another guy b/c he does have some issues and you don't want to be caught up in it...
2007-02-14 13:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy's obviously a weirdo if he did that. Probably thinks he heard a voice telling him you'd say yes. Honestly, I'd buy some sort of personal protection (like peper spray or a gun) because this is going to turn weird.
Anyone who asks someone to marry them on a first date and then gets mad when they say no is a freak.
OTOH, you could call him, say your sorry, say he moved to fast, invite him over and have him in 7 different positions. Then you can always keap him hanging on with the, "I'm not ready for marriage, but when I am you'll be the one" line, and use him as a booty call while you look for someone better.
He'll try to be possessive, but you stop him by saying, "I'm not yours, you're mine. I own you. You're my toy. Now shut up and pleasure me." Then make him do really gross $h*t like eat out of a dog bowl. This guy is wacko enough you can just destroy him and have a good, sadistic time yourself.
2007-02-14 21:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to deal with. It was too quick to ask you such a question, he does not even know you that well. Now how can he know if he wants to marry you? He's being unreasonable, your not. I would think he was joking to or that he was crazy if he wasn't joking. It could also be that he knew you would reject him, and in doing so, he is getting even with you for all those times when you didn't go out with him, since you mention he has asked before. Sounds messed up. If he doesn't call or talk to you again, forget him.
2007-02-14 21:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy just got to excited because you finally went out with him. He probably really likes you, and did not want to take any chances that this maybe his last time with you. Maybe he has low-self esteem. Give him a call, and let him know that you do like him, but he is taking the relationship a little to fast. Give him one more chance, not everyone knows how to react when they are around someone they like or love.
2007-02-14 21:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like he doesn't know you that well, and you probably don't know him that well. I mean really let's get realistic, you go out on a date and right away he wants to marry you. Why should you feel bad about it, he's the one who obviously has issues.The last I checked you should go out alot before you know if your meant to be together.Maybe you haven't had the chance to go out with him before for a reason.Sounds like a red flag warning. If he does call you again, you should tell him to take it slow and get to know each other better,that's if you really like him, but that's your choice. Good luck
2007-02-14 22:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly cared for you, he would understand your feelings, and he would understand if you're not ready yet, you think this is too fast, or you want to wait longer. Don't rush marriage, please! Marriage is such a HUGE commitment, and if you force yourself to marry someone, you'll be miserable for basically the rest of your life. If you don't want to settle down yet and have a stable family, then tell him that. If he's still upset, tell him if he truly cared for you, he wouldn't mind.
2007-02-14 21:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You laughed at him? Sounds like he made the right choice and took an emotionally immature girl home. Id leave you there.
2007-02-14 21:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by csiders30 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me get this straight, tonight was your first date, and he asked you to marry him? That's crazy. I would think he was joking too.
If you really like him, though, tell him that you like him but you really feel like you need to spend more time dating and getting to know each other before you're ready to make a decision about marriage. If he really likes you, he'll respect that.
But don't let him pressure you into doing anything you're not ready for.
2007-02-14 21:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting mad was not an appropriate response to a marriage proposal.
2007-02-14 21:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion, as you obviously don't want to marry him (at least right now) is say that you aren't ready for this kind of commitment? but i do pity him, it probably took a lot of guts to say that and when you laughed it must of crushed him, say that you didn't understand him and that you are not ready for this kind of commitment.
2007-02-14 21:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by matrix dude 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋