Is it bad for me to have sex? im 14 i belive in god, it has things for it and against it in the bible help?

Question

i am virgin but i dont know any more society is messed up now

Alright ive read the first 42 i think most of you are right. i should wait and god says tho shallnot commit adultry ill wait for marrage thanks:)

Answer 1

It is a sin. Our popular culture is so messed up now, everyone is having sex, abortions, gay marriage, etc. Listen to God...not to what the world tells you. Satan is the ruler of this godless culture.

"For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality" I thess. 4:3

"envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." gal. 5:21

Stay away from sexual sins. Other sins that people commit don't affect their bodies the same way sexual sins do. People who sin sexually sin against their own bodies" 1 cor. 6:18

Answer 2

According to The Bible, the only people that are allowed to engage in sex are a man and a woman that are married to each other. Sex outside of marriage is called either adultery or fornication. Both of which are considered sin. It doesn't mean that you will lose your salvation, but it keeps you from having a close relationship with God. The penalty for sin is death, so if you willingly sin, you know that death, both spiritual and physical, is coming.

You also have to question if you're really saved because, If you're trying to follow God and know Him better, disobeying Him will only put distance between you, not bring you closer. It's just like a parent - child relationship. The parent loves the child, but if the child intentionally, and continually does the opposite of what the parent says, judgment has to come. It doesn't mean that the parent loses love for the child, in fact, the punishment proves that it's still there, but the more the child disobeys, the farther they get from having a good relationship. Now, if you voluntarily accept God and decide to follow Him, but then you disregard what He says to do, You weren't really sincere when you accepted Him.

Also, consider this. When you get married, do you want your wife to be a virgin, or someone that has been with 5 different men? Now turn it around. Do you think your wife will want a husband that's been with 8 women? A lot of people say they wouldn't mind, but if you really think about it, why would you want someone else to know what your wife looks like naked? Giving your virginity to your spouse is a special bond that only the two of you can share. Once you give it to someone else, it's impossible to get back.

I gave you some scriptures below, but if you want more, email me, and I'll show you some more things. I was in the same situation years ago and by studying it out I realized that I needed to be saved. Forget what society says because they're influenced by Satan. That's why the Word of God isn't tolerated in schools, courtrooms or on television. Set your standards according to the Bible, and you won't fail. God will see to it.

Answer 3

sex takes about 5 -10 minutes but being a father is for the rest of your life. there is a lot of responsibility that comes from being a parent. i think you don't want to be a father when you are just 14 or 15 years old. you have the rest of your life in front of you. enjoy it. i don't think it is society that is messed up - its the media and tv that makes you think that way.
by the way if you wait for the right moment with the right person it will feel much better and it will show how much respect you have of yourself and that you have control your life - not your mind controling you.

Answer 4

How much faith do you put into god? Do you believe, if you do have sex, that's he's going to protect you from AIDS or getting pregnant? Now I know this sounds pro-christian, but it's not.

It's your choice. Do you feel you're ready? There's a great deal of emotion that comes from losing your virginity, and it could be greater if you regret it later and believe you've sinned. Don't make it about god or the bible, if you feel you want to, and are ready, do so, with protection of course. But if not, then stick to your God and wait until you are ready, whether that's 6 months from now, or your wedding night.

Answer 5

God invented the whole idea of sex. It was His idea. He set up the guidelines, and laid down the rules, that sex is to be between one man, and one woman, for life. In the context of marriage, where there is a lifetime commitment, sex is a wonderful thing.

Are you ready to get married? If not, don't have sex. Save it, you will be glad you did. I have never met one person that regretted saving virginity until their marriage day.

May God bless you and guide you through these difficult decisions.

Answer 6

Sex isn't bad, but God has sanctioned marriaged sex, so pre-marital sex is not something we're supposed to do. I know it's hard, trust me, I'm 21 and have been with my boyfriend for two years now and there's been times I really just want to do it, but I turn to God and I know that waiting until I'm married is what I am supposed to do.

God asks for our obedience and it is one of the best things we can do, so trust God. Also, if you do have sex before marriage, you are giving away something that you can never give up again. And if you don't remain with that person, then when you do finally find the one who is your soulmate, you can no longer give that to them.

Sex isn't bad, but our society has perverted it and so it gets confusing as to what we should do. Society says it's something we should do for recreation and often, but God says it is a private matter between you, your spouse and God and it should stay that way.

I know that I can't ultimitely make the decision for you, but I can give you some benefits to waiting until your married. My boyfriend was definitely one for sex and had it often, so of course when he met me it was a shock for me to say "No, I'm waiting until marriage". And he told me up front that he wouldn't wait longer than three months.

As I said, it's been two years and we're still going strong. And because I'm waiting, he's learning of things he always missed in his previous relationships, like talking long into the night and just being stupid with games and wrestling and tickling. When he was with his old girlfriends, he said they would usually just have sex and then sleep and on their anniversery it just meant going to dinner, watching a movie and then having sex. On ours, we go places and talk and have fun, things he always missed before.

And I believe the best part about waiting is it truly makes your wedding night something to remember. I'm all too familiar with my friends getting married and then saying "Well, he better not expect me to be up for it tonight because I'm tired!" and to me that's not special at all.

Then you also know who really wants you for you and won't just leave you once you've had sex. Waiting truly does some amazing things in a relationship and so I hope that you will really think about this before you make your decision.

Answer 7

I think it is something that won't mess society up anymore. But I strongly suggest you wait. With all these STD's out there. Using a condom isn't always enough. You can get STD's from oral sex too. Just be careful. Since you know how the Bible sees pre-marital sex, make sure it's with someone that's worth it. Someone who loves and respects you. Someone who isn't pressuring you. Wait if you can!!

Answer 8

Society may be messed up, but you don't need to be messed up. Take responsibility for your life.
If you want to live according to Biblical principles, you will wait till you are married to have sex.
That is the road to freedom: freedom to say "no"
Freedom from an unwanted pregnancy (possible even with a condom)
Freedom from a possible abortion
Freedom from having to give up a child for adoption
Freedom from sexually transmitted diseases (possible even with a condom)
Freedom from guilt
Freedom from a lack of trust in your future marriage.

So go for freedom, and abstain. You will be respected for it, but even if you were not, it would be worthwhile.
EDIT:
Contrary to what some people may tell you, EVERYBODY is NOT having sex, abortions, etc. In anonymous polls, it is surprising how many people say they are virgins, even at the respectable old age of the early twenties. Many people choose to wait till marriage.

Answer 9

It`s not bad to have sex. Altho, it would be much okay to do it with the"right one" not just with the "certain one".

I`m a christian and the bible is against pre-marital sex, and I myself also believe that. And yet, individual's differ and also thier views and likes.

Well, for you - youre still young! You should be responsible and mature enough to know its consequences and the effects of what you are doing. Enjoy your life for now, becoz you can`t get it back in the later years and there's so much more than sex.

Answer 10

Sex is wonderful! To be suppressed of good normal heterosexual sex is a sin! However, 14 is a bit young- you may want to wait a bit longer- like legal age! People who go to church and tell you sex is a sin are hypocrites because the church is full of sex in sick disgusting ways beyond normal sex- like incest (Mormons), buggery (Catholics), swingers (Dutch Reformers), and so on. Furthermore, the Bible has been re-written by these particular people too- you can no longer trust them or the Bible because they have all become corrupt and devious liars of the snake who they claim is responsible for the actions that they, themselves, have committed!!

Answer 11

Of course bad as this is the age to Study Hard & make Career. Ask your God to give you power to overcome sex in your thoughts & keep you Virgin till the time you got matured and find a sincere Life Partner.