My past relationship was very a bad one, it's been 2years ago, im having problems trusting again...?

Question

I have been dumped thrice by the same guy in my past relationship. It was like everything was already set that we will be together forever but he just bailed out. So many broken promises. He's kept winning me back and dumping me again. It's been 2 years. Im having troubles trusting again... i feel insecure and extremely bad about myself with little negative things that people say.. and i easily give up on things now.. im changed.. ive been stronger.. but i also don't hold on too long on any relationships anymore even just with my friends.. i try not to make relationships too deep.. but i feel so alone.. some guys come.. but i hide or run.. do i just expect too much from people that i get hurt? anybody out there who understands?

i question almost everybody's intentions. and i feel used by everybody. like at school i feel used making projects and etc.. i feel that people don't see me but only what i can do for them.. have you ever been with someone who never broke a promise?

i have a girl bestfriend.. but i noticed how she would leave me when her personal needs become there.. but i sacrifice mine for her..

and when somebody's nice.. i feel that this just feel sorry for me...

Answer 1

"do i just expect too much from people that i get hurt?" No, you expect too little of them, you do not want to get hurt again, and that is understandable. You have been hurt many times over, and you do not want to feel that way ever again, who would. It is obvious that you are still hurt, but you can not keep running from pain, the only way to overcome it, is by standing up to it.

The first step is realizing what you want to change about yourself, the second and final step is commitment. Committing to do what you need to do to overcome what is holding you back from happiness. Unfortunately, no one can tell you what you need to do, as only you can answer that.

Next time a decent man engages in conversation with you, just remember, not all men are inconsiderate jack offs.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel right about now. I was with my bf for 1 1/2 and he just thinks that he can pick me up and drop me when he wants to...Everything was planned out....he broke SO many promises that he made to me. I feel like I will never find anyone because it seems like they are ALL the same. I finally gave up...today I threw away n e thing that had to do with him...he has a NEW! gf and I am in the process of pursuing or waiting to be pursued by someone else, but at the same time its just hard. I have been giving up on everything because it feels like thats what everthing does to me, I don't feel as if I am strong as I used to be either...I just fall into ****** traps so easily because I want someone to be here. Sometimes I feel like I expect too much from ******, but I think that I deserve it and refuse to settle for less...you know? I know how you feel because I feel the EXACT same way right now. Sometimes you just gotta keep your head up and expect the good out of everything because you can't live your life like this for the rest of it...you aren't alone.

Answer 3

Ive been through that and believe me it sucks! Dont let begin to doubt people so much that you exclude yourself from people. Try to be optomistic realize that not everyone is like him.Take a chance with these guys because this will give you a chance to see that you can trust others.Go into relationships with an optomistic approach look for the best in people not the worst because really this is what is dragging you down. Stop yourself before it gets too far you do not want to end up suffering from depression.

Answer 4

some people are really USERS you know they just like you because of the benefits they are getting from you, but hey remember not all are like that! learn to trust again and give love one more shot, just be more cautious though and learn more about someone's personality, attitudes and stuffs like that. and don't let other people abuse you in any way, if you feel like being used then don't stick out with people like that. you deserve true friends and a man that will really really love you and make you happy. goodluck!