so im 21, im inlove with a girl of 20..her first boyfirend for 3 years cheated on her,broke up with her..we went out, and he came back saying sorry blah blah blah..she is really inlove with him to much to see what is best for her...the man i am i know im better for her...they were together for 3 years first (she was 16) broke up for a year..now back together...i would like to know from older than college student women if they will really last,might he cheat again, might she ever fall out of love with him??? (just want to add,he seems to care about her alot,and only hurt her when he cheated on her.he was her first and only sexual partner,and all their friends are connected also)
2007-02-14 13:15:02 · 5 answers · asked by seventy9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anything could happen there. Some women really do marry their first loves. There is a comfort and understanding there that it takes a while to rebuild if you have been hurt and some women would rather go back to who hurt them than risk being hurt by someone new. You might get another chance if she doesn't see a real change from him or if he cheats on her again. There is no promise that either will happen. I would be a good friend and explore my other options in the meantime--the woman for you might be out looking for you while you are in your room pining for the other woman.
2007-02-14 13:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a strange thing. People are often so blinded by it that they can't see what's best for them.
I know you must be hurting right now but don't give up. No matter how big a jerk this guy is, don't talk bad about him to anyone! Not your friends, her friends, parents, not anyone. And especially not to her. By being a bigger man you will show her that you can be trusted. Eventually when he cheats again, and he will, she will need someone to lean on.
Be that someone. Let her know that you care and that she can always count you. Being a friend now will help her to realize that you will stay forever.
You sound like a nice person. I wish I could promise you that she will open her eyes and give you a chance, but I can't. Like I said earlier, love is a strange thing. If it doesn't work out, if she doesn't ever give you a chance, don't give up trying to find someone else. Not a rebound, but someone who will love you back.
I have learned a lot of this from experience. I fell in love when I was 15. He was my best friend all through my childhood and I never knew he felt the same way until 30 years later. At the time we were both too shy and scared to talk about anything other than cars and baseball. (And yes I'm a woman.) In the time we were apart we both married someone else and raised families. Now at nearly 50 years old, I'm looking forward to spending the rest of my life with this man.
I'm hoping you don't have to lose her for as long as I lost him, but sometimes that's what it takes. If it's meant to be, it will. No amount of time or distance can change it.
I wish you luck and love.
2007-02-14 14:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are quite some females individuals obtainable that do not want a 2d danger because they couldn't in any respect have performed that to you in the first position. there's a large distinction between faith and stupidity. there is no longer something shy about her in holding such as your human being letter! She manipulated you, used you, cheated on you and is doing her damnedest to cheat on her modern bf with YOU! She isn't chuffed and misery loves employer. She is often used with the way you felt about her and she or he's attempting to regulate you for her personal pastime. She would not recognize a thanks to really look after or about someone and she or he has no appreciate for you. She is lacking something and that's no longer something you may fix. she will be in a position to do an identical ingredient to you again. yet if you're a glutten pass for it yet you been warned many situations over.
2016-11-03 11:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All in all it sounds like her heart belongs to him and he is where she wants to be. If he cares for her and she is able to forgive him for cheating then they apparently care alot for each other. There is no guarantee on the future, and we never know what will happen.
You shouldnt wait around on her. Date other women and dont remand yourself to getting her back. If the oppurtunity arises, then take it. Until then, find others to date and have some fun.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 13:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will do it again men like that don't chang trust me on that one and as for you just hange in there be a good friend to her and she will need you to lean on when he does it again ma by she will learn her lesson not to go back to him so yes you will just stick in there my friend
2007-02-14 13:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋