What do you think about dating someone 30 years older than you?

Question

This guy feels like my soulmate but the age is bodering because I don't know what my family and friends will think of him when they see he can be my dad! What would you think?

Answer 1

If he puts a smile on your face, then that's all that really matters. He will probably die much sooner than you, but since you used the term soulmate that really doesn't matter since you probably believe in an afterlife. Goodluck.

Answer 2

Usually so long as both parties are over the age of 18, I don't see any problem with age differences. But a 30 year age difference is pretty signifigant. You should try to think down the road what kind of a differance it will really make. There is a much bigger differance than just numbers when you are talking about 30 years. Whatever you decide, I'm sure you will make the right decision for you. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Wow...30 years is long time. I know couples with 10 years difference and they are having problems now that he is 65 and she is 55. He is retiring, having health problems, etc. She is in the thick of her career and is not ready to give up her "life" (as she calls her work).

The biggest problem may be his health as time goes by. I don't want to be a "nay sayer", but God, is it difficult! Are you willing/able to deal with the bad stuff that may happen when you're (e.g. 50) and he's 30 years older???

You really sound like you love him. I don't ever recall thinking about this kind of thing before...at least not in terms of 30 years (it's a generation...).

I'm not helping much...sorry. You've got a tough situation.

In the end it's YOUR decision. The heck with your family and friend's opinions.

Good luck!

Answer 4

well that depends how old u r and how old he is like if its a 20 and 50 thing i dont recomend it if its like 30 and 60 thing kinda no 40 and 70 no way face it 30 years is a big difference there is nothin u can say that will make ppl look at it differently but if u like him go ahead but if u want kids look somewhere else

Answer 5

It really depends on how old YOU are...if you are a minor this guy could be potentially playing on your emotions and taking advantage of the fact he has bagged a young hottie. I would seriously think over your relationship. If you know that both of you are in it for the right reasons then forget what everyone else thinks. They aren't living your life, you are and you only get one chance at it...

Good luck!

Answer 6

I think it is a little over the top. Unlike some other people, I think it is fine if you are "underage" or whatever, provided of course you are not too gullible or an idiot alltoghether. But nonetheless, just think for a moment about the sex. Really, and it might seem a little too forward or at least shallow of me, but....., you know, I mean..., REALLY........ 30 years difference....? You sure you wanna have a good hard sit-down to think about the long-term end of the deal if you do choose to take it seriously...?

Don't worry about him being old enough to be your father, worry about you yourself being young enough to be his kid. Think about it.

Answer 7

Age doesn't really matter however how old are you? Getting invovled in a guy who is 30 years older is kinda risky.

Answer 8

Gurl i honestly think that if u feel this way about him and u really feel speacial about him then that is all that matters i no that it is right 2 get yo familys blessings wit anybody that u date but if u feel strongly about him then go 4 it.

Answer 9

Age is just a number. As long as you're both consenting adults and you enjoy his/her company, it's up to you and only you. I was in a situation like that with a young woman and broke it off because I thought it wouldn't be fare to her. She pleaded with me to stay with her but I thought it was best. Now that I'm reading your message, I'm having second thoughts.

Answer 10

Um....how old are you first of all? Personally, a 30 year age difference is too much for me. I wouldn't do it, but that's me. If you like him then fine.