See now say that u like this boy and he likes u and yall hav talked about going wit each other and wat eva but he has a crazy ex-girl who keeps flirtin wit him and u r sic of it and u want 2 cus her out so bad but u no that the boy doesn't hav fellins 4 her so should u finally tell her off our should u just trust yo man and no that he wont fall 4 it again?
2007-02-14 12:59:47 · 5 answers · asked by SpoiiLed..BraT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, i know the feeling... been there, felt that. But even if your guy's ex-girlfriend is still hanging around, you can keep your relationship.
You have to understand that not all relationships end on bad terms and some previous relationships may result in a really good friendship. So how do you deal with "the ex"?
Steps
Talk to your boyfriend about the ex, and find out what the conditions of the breakup were. This will help you judge how to handle the situation. Are they still good friends that just didn't work out romantically? Do they hate each other now? Are they just polite to each other because they attend the same school or University? Knowing the conditions of the previous breakup will help you understand the way you need to handle the situation.
If the ex is still trying to push her feelings, explain to her that they are no longer in a relationship and you would appreciate it if they accept the fact you and the other person were together. If they persist, then it might be best to have your boyfriend explain it to them. If they continue to do so, then talk to your significant other about getting a restraining order. Some people just don't understand "Go Away" and a court order will help get it through their heads.
If they are still friends or co-workers, then understand that they will maintain a relationship. You can't be expected to give up your friends just because you've gotten with another person so don't expect them to do the same. The best way to handle this is to have long conversations with your boyfriend about your feelings for each other. If you're still worried, then that signifies you have some confidence issues that need to be addressed.
Tips
Never settle for second place, but also never expect them to drop every aspect of their life for you. They have relationships outside of you, and if your dealing with an ex who has become a good friend, then you need to learn how to accept it, and be comfortable and confident enough in your relationship not to feel threatened.
Warning!
If he won't stop giving his ex signals that it's okay for bet to flirt with him, he might still like her even if he doesn't admit it. His actions show a serious lack of respect for you, and even if it hurts, that's a sign for you to move on.
2007-02-14 13:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bombshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this dude and want to be with him, the ex-factor will not matter, but in your case, don't be disrespected. Explain to the female in a polite but stern voice that he is your man now, and not hers. If she doesn't cooperate, do what you have to do...or find a potential mate with less drama.
2007-02-14 21:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Charnissia S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to have a successful relationship, TRUST is the basis of it.
Blow her off. If she's that crazy, I'd stay the heck away from her. She's just going to go to the "next step" if you get in her face. She'll get mean, do things to/at you, get physical, etc.
Trust your man! (If you can't, get rid of him...)
2007-02-14 21:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by mhcgjl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IGNORE the ex. She's just bitter and jealous. Tell her to leave you both alone. She had her chance but blew it.
2007-02-14 21:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him tell her
2007-02-14 21:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by zen522 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋