I know depending on the situation, do you believe in second chances?
I am in a sticky situation with I guy I have dated for four months, recently, I discovered that he went behind my back spending time with this girl he knew for four years, (for only a few days), but haven't seen each other for two years, I had a funny feeling that week, so later on he told me that he was confused, and wanted to slow things down, not knowing what was going on, i have to ask him questions to find out what the real reason was, when i found out about her, he told me that she was a friend (never dated) that he was close with, and he didn't want to hurt me..and he wants a relationship...what is your intake on this...
I don't want to be second best...b/c thats crap
2007-02-14 12:38:21 · 22 answers · asked by OnAJourney 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean he wants a relationship with me now*
2007-02-14 12:41:06 · update #1
oh and he said he didn't tell me b/c it didn't mean anything and he didn't want me to get hurt...or freak out...
2007-02-14 12:45:52 · update #2
When we meet someone and began a "Potential" relationship with them, we never know what will take place. You have only been with this person for 4 MONTHS....first and foremost - pull back some of your emotions - you are not his first and for the most part, there is always an EX. This is a NEW relationship for both of you, which is going to take a lot of trust, respect from both of you. Relationships involve both give and take. How much you give and how much you are willing to take, will either make it or break it. There is no reason to be insecure if you are secure within yourself. Know who you are - what you want, what you don't want, what you will accept, what you will not accept and don't settle for anything less. Second chances are OK - just remember there are 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, etc. chances also. It's a matter of choice.
2007-02-14 12:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by LMMMD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good boyfriend will be open and honest about who he is spending time with. If he said "I'm spending time with one of my friends", he obviously forgot to mention that it was with a close friend who is a girl. Therefore, he thought there was something wrong with what he was doing. Even if he didn't tell you because he thought you would worry about whether he was cheating, he still could have said something. And for those possible reasons, and if he purposely went behind my back, I wouldn't give him a second chance. He took a risk. Consequences come from all actions.
2007-02-14 12:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you and this guy have an understanding that you were exclusively dating? If so, then I would not give him another chance. If you had an open relationship and him hanging out with someone else made him realize that he wants a relationship with you then give him that chance. I'm dating someone now and we date other people and without a doubt if he wanted something exclusive with me, I would give him that. It all goes back to what the "original terms" of your dating was based on. Cheating is cheating, although I do believe that people can change.
2007-02-14 12:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by babeebluez73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, I do, like you stated all and sundry can make a mistake, yet you want to learn from that mistake and not in any respect save doing if over and once more desirable, no you'll forgive an identical ingredient many times and forgive you. dishonest, no 2d possibilities, you want to play round come across a sparkling position to stay, get your sorry a-- out and do not look decrease back even as they go away, nope they're those that do not deserve a 2d danger. i do not care what percentage situations, the know-how i'm sorry comes out of their mendacity mouths, females do not enable them schmooze you over, youthful little ones or no youthful little ones in the marriage or relationship, kick them out for sturdy. Have considered this sorry bunch of trash in the courts too many situations for divorces, nope, not in any respect a 2d danger, once a cheater, continuously a 2 confronted low down mendacity dogs cheater........and then take them to the cleaners for each thing they have...LOL
2016-11-03 11:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might done it behind your back because he thought you would freak out, which we girls are great at, so he didnt want the drama, if he says he wants a relationship then go for it. Just be ok with the fact that this girl is part of his life, guys ahave chick friends just like girls have guy friends.
2007-02-14 12:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by canadian_cutie_20_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a second chance if in your heart of hearts you feel and know without a doubt you can trust him. Meaning, you can trust his actions and things he says to you. Remember that doubt in your heart normally means NO.
2007-02-14 12:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, relations palpitations he's trying to bate you off his slippery slope with a double life relationship. Your too good for him set your sights higher and dump him in tomorrows garbage.
2007-02-14 12:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Country Boy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters never deserve second chances
2007-02-14 12:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the challenge. Show him you are the girl who he really wants to be with.
If he wants to be with you then you won't be second best.....you will be THE best one for him.
2007-02-14 12:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He went behind your back and cheated on you. He doesn`t deserve it. Under no condition is cheating right.
2007-02-14 12:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋