I am currently dating a wonderful person and he has been divorced for quite some time. His kids have very good communication with their mother, yet he has nothing to do with her. Yet information is relayed back and forth as to what each one is doing and it makes me feel quite uncomfortable since I really get no info. on her but they do go out of their way to make eachothers lives impossible. More on her side than his. I do question him as to what he really thinks of her and he is very negative in his responses and it makes me wonder why he is so considerate towards her. Is it insecurity? Maybe, but do men really move on?
2007-02-14 12:36:38 · 7 answers · asked by Jewels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has to control his behavior, they both need to settle in peace because they have kids. Kids see the behavior and think is their fault. Kids don't talk about it but they do feel it inside. Try to advice him about the situation. It doesn't matter who is wrong or not they both need to think about their kids.
2007-02-14 12:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your talking about, my boyfriend say s the same thing about his ex,but when she comes around to pick up his daughter, they seem to be friendly and he tells me that they have finally gotten to a point where they could be civil. Personally I think it's a load of crap.She was jealous of me when I moved where he lived to be with him, now why would she be jealous if she could care less about him.People have a tendency to give you mix signals about their ex's. And from my experience when they give them a hard time, it's because a part of them still cares,even if it don't seem like it.They know they have the power specially when kids are involved.And men just expect us to sit back and take it.I suggest you start getting some info about things if you want to be with him and want your relationship to work out,you should be able to share things even if it has to do with her and the kids.Don't sit back and wonder, know what's going on.
2007-02-14 20:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if kids are involved and he is being considerate, what is your problem. he doesn't want to be the one bad mouthing the kids mother. maybe she does it about him. kids play games with their parents. didn't you know that. yes men do move on. sometimes the new woman is the mans life has a hard time with his "ex" and that's what makes it so difficult.
2007-02-14 20:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think new relationships are threatened by ex's, because they have kids together, are tied together by the kids, and i really don't think they dislike her as much as they put on to their new girlfriend. but he has to say what he thinks u want to hear so as to avoid any confrontation or thoughts that maybe their is still s relationship going on between them. i don't think anyone really ever moves on as far as the memories of that person. u will feel insecure it is natural.
2007-02-14 20:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess its just the thought that this person was once involved with the person you are curently in love or strong like with and when u imagine them being together things he may have done 4 her and not done 4 u its just a thing we women have and i am also guilty of it
2007-02-14 20:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by chrischick2438 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is simply because at one point in the guys life she was important to him. guys bury their feelings, so who knows if there are still latent feelings inside waiting to come back out.
2007-02-14 20:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lips-of-an-angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol when they say i cant you ; they think thats the reason you guys broke up.
2007-02-14 20:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋