in love with my ex gf?

Question

she said she wanted to get to know me we were together and broke up twice once i broke up with her then she broke up with me.
noone cheated nothing bad happened.
i got her a valentimes day present and found out the same day i got it she had a b/f one of her friends said if things dint work out with her curent b/f she would go out with me agin.
im still giveing her the necklace and i love her with all my heart and ive passed up 2 girls i know like me b/c she still means alot to me

she wanted me to go to church with her tonight b/f she went to her dad's house for the weekend so she could see me and i wanted to im not even a christian

Answer 1

I would forget about her. It sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and she wants you to be her wing man if things don't work out with this other guy. Find someone who loves you and be happy. XOXO Trista

Answer 2

Here's one thing about human nature: We Always Want What's Not So Easily Attainable.
Here's my advice my friend, you always want the upper hand in any relationship, but right now she has that advantage, so that means the table has to turn. Don't go out with she and her BF anywhere, it will show that you're okay with her being with him. It's a test to see if you have any balls. DONT do it. If she wants to meet you without him then meet her.
The next time you see her, you have to let her know that you want her. That she's better with you than anyone else. You want your woman back so you have to do whats necesary. I'm against giving her the gift when you know that she has a bf. Trust me this is the wrong move. It is like rewarding her for being with someone else.
If she says something like she wants to see where it goes with the guy that she's with. You should let her keep her options open and you should date one of the other girls who are interested in you. Don't mislead the other girl. Let her know that you enjoy her company, but you just need time to open up to her. When your current ex knows that you're not just gonna be sitting around waiting for her, she'll make a real decision about being with you.
Be nice and be civil, but don't be a sucker. You're a guy in demand. You have two girls who want you, but you know what you want and you go after it. Guys in demand are more attractive. Thats just the way it works. Sitting around waiting on her will make you seem desperate and she won't be attracted to a desperate guy.
Make sure you tell her that you want her back and she should be with you and not the guy she's with now. You're being honest and women appreciate honesty. Good luck. Write me if you need anything else.

Answer 3

IF there was nothing bad in the relationship, why did it end. If she is with someone else, maybe its a one sided love. Maybe she still wants to be your friend, and if you want a second or third chance with her, that is the way to do it. Show her that you can respect her, and support her with someone else, and if something were to happen with the other guy, take your chance and share your feelings with her. There was a reason that you 2 didnt work out in the first place, and if you are going to pursure her again, save her and yourself, by not making the same mistakes again.

Answer 4

if she still cares for you she would have broke up with her current bf, and be with you! You are in awkward position, did you ask her if she still feels the same way you do? what if she only likes to hang with you and just be your friend. For now enjoy your life and go out with other girls that you like and let your ex gf be with her bf because if you two are meant to be then time can only tell.

Answer 5

Look, it's obvious that she does not want you seriously. I mean come on....she said she is willing to go back to you if things don't work out with her current bf. Why would you want to be her second choice...it's clear that she does not want to be alone and would rather be with her not so favorite (which is you) than be alone. Hey if you don't minf being her back up ...go for it. As for the necklace...no comment..I would have given it to my mother rahter than her. You are her puppet that's all that is. If I were you, would just play along and play her as much as she is playing you. Use her for sex since she wants to use you for a company till she finds someting else.The best antidote for your prob is to find someone else.

Answer 6

um...darling...don't let her dangle you. Your heart hasnt had time to heal, so of course you still love her. You may love her for awhile even, but, it is time for this relationship to be over. You deserve better than to be a just in case this other thing doesnt work out guy.... It's time to let go, and get on with your healing. She will probably realize what she lost, but, you deserve better...

Answer 7

Yeh get over her, because seriously why would u want to compete for someones love, it should be reciprocated immediately but if shes with someone else ur only 2nd choice n what does that tell u

Answer 8

Depends on how much you care about her. Everyone wants whats best for themselves. If its meant to be it will be otherwise not. Remaining friends would be up to you both. (if it didnt work out) It takes two to tango. Good luck.

Answer 9

okay i have the same thing i have been going out with a boy off and on for 2 years and recently we broke up and i want to go out with him again. but he has a gf. but he said when he brakes up with her he is going to go out with me. but all you have to do is keep telling her how you feel and just keep waiting. maybe you'll get lucky. glad to help :]]

Answer 10

I don't think you should give her a necklace if she has another boyfriend. You wouldn't like someone to do that to you....I would let her know your feelings...and then back away.