My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half and we just recently got engaged. About a year ago she kissed another guy, she admitted that it was a mistake and I eventually forgave her and we stayed together. I really love her, but I can't manage to forget the past. I have tried talking to her about it, but it upsets her. I just want to put the past behind me and let us move on with our lives. Can someone please help me?
2007-02-14 12:28:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It take time to heal from a betrayal and I think you haven't fully forgiven her yet.
Can you trust her to go out around her guy friends and you are not there? If you can't, then you haven't fully forgive her.
Hope this help Good luck.
2007-02-14 13:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that anyone can help you. The thing is, you have to forgive her and let go of what she did. You are still holding on to what she did and a part of you still does not trust her. So, you have to decide on whether you want to let it go, or find someone else whom you feel you can trust 100%. People make mistakes and she made a mistake while being with you. Maybe you need to get to the bottom of why she actually kissed this guy in order to get pas it totally.
2007-02-14 20:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can forgive, but never forget. So do as you said and PUT THE PAST BEHIND YOU. STOP TALKING TO HER ABOUT IT! Sometimes you can talk TOO MUCH! So if it upsets her - STOP! You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss and NO MORE! You're the one engaged to her. No one else is. So if you love her, hang it up!
2007-02-14 20:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Donna O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, she messed up. Bad. You are still unhappy. Is she angry that you're still upset? Is there another reason, like a mistake you made? If not, then she's being unfair, and the real reason why is because she feels really guilty (as she should!) and she doesn't want to talk about it. You deserve the truth and you get to take care of you before her before you trust her again. This pain won't last forever, especially if you have the answers you need.
2007-02-14 20:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by carmella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss another girl and tell her if was a mistake lol it would help though. It sucks because I've had the same thing happen to me, I couldnt forget it, but if you never forget it, things will become worse, you need to let go of the past. But if in the future the same happens, you need to do something about it.
2007-02-14 20:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by agentmike45 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i understand not wanting to let it go. i mean it could always happen again and go even further. just tell her that you need to talk about it for you to be able to move on. just make sure the past stays in the past after you guys get married. make sure everything gets taken care of because after you two get married you don't want things going down hill right from the get-go because of something that happened a while ago.
2007-02-14 20:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay..it seems like a rough spot in your life with her. It truely sounds like an honest mistake and you need to stop worrying about the past and focus on the present and future don't think of the other things thing of her...and how much you love her...and how you two will spend your life together....If you love her and she loves you...the two of you will get past it("Together")
Happy Valentine's Day!!! I hope it all works out for the two of you!
Tori
2007-02-14 20:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she probably hurt and embarrasses at what she done. I know it hurts not to think about the past. It'll be hard to trust her but she need to show you that she is dedicated to you and will not fool around again. That's her part and as for you, I think you should trust her for the action she does from now on, if she's faithful. I know how you feel. Maybe if you fix your problem and move on you should tell me how you did it!
2007-02-14 20:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by lAVi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem here is with your mind. You should be able to just forget about it. You love her, she loves you. Obviously since you stayed together, she chose you over this guy. You won so the past shouldn't matter.
2007-02-14 20:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by PUtuba7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u want to put the past behind then just do it. its been about a year since that happened so y hang on to it bcuz its not hurtin anyone but yourself.she could have done things far worst than a kiss.
2007-02-14 20:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋