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theres this guy that i met the beginning of the school year and we were basically "together" but not going out for like 4 months. we really liked each other and everything was going great. then around december, he started to think this other girl was cute, but we were still together and he still had feelings for me. it was getting really annoying because she liked him and kept trying to flirt with him. so i made him choose between us, and he chose me. we hooked up, nothing serious, after that. now just recently like a couple weeks ago he told me he needs to end it between us b/c he needs to focus on school.. (hes been doing really bad and his moms pissed). he said he wants to be cool with me and loves who i am. so we decide to end it, and then i see him with HER. now they have a fling and he ASSURES me that he didnt plan it to be this way and that he never meant to hurt me. he keeps giving me mixed signs and everyone thinks he still likes me. should i let him go, or try to get him back

2007-02-14 12:20:07 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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It is likely he does still like you if he is giving you mixed signals, but not ready to settle down with any one girl on a steady basis, especially if he is having trouble in school and his Mom is on him about his grades.

If he didn't respect you, he would not have broken it off...he would have just cheated on you, so that is a very good sign.

One thing you did wrong, especially at his age, is give him an ultimatum of choosing between you and another girl...it comes across like you are his mother telling him what to do (and he already has his Mom on his back about his grades)...of course he is going to want to end it and be attracted and hang out with someone who isn't putting additional pressures on hims and builds up his ego, not tear it down (the other girl that flirts with him that he is now seeing).

If you do decide to try to get back in with him and want it to work out in the long run, you are going to need to give him space and time to work on his studies and both of you continue to see other people in addition to hanging out with him and see how it goes. It might work out, or you both might find out there other people you are more compatible with.

2007-02-15 22:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0 0

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