I am rude, disrespectful, evil, corrupt, conniving, and I brainwash?!.?

Question

Thats what I get called on a daily basis by my parents.
Yes I am an imperfect child [very imperfect]. I always argue with my parents about the way our household is run [about how my brothers have to do nothing while I do everything; how I have to clean their room; about how they get treated like kings while Im the maid; about how they should be alittle more soft when my borthers get bad grades; why they shouldn't use verbal abuse when trying to explain something] I ALWAYS LOSE.

Last night my brother came to me and had a problem and so I told my parents about this [ they began to sayy how I was making it up and was brainwashing my brother into thinking in such a way] They told me that I was ruining the family and was corrupting my brothers. And today [I don't know how or why] but my brother finally told my parents about how he feels living in this family. THEY YELLED AT ME! SAYING THAT I HAD BRAINWASHED HIM. THEY CALLED ME SATAN OF THE FAMILY. It hurt my feelings really badly.

I didn't say anything. And I can hear them talking right now about how I was the underlaying cause of all the arguements.

I feel like ****. And I feel bad because I know I cause them a lot of problems whenever I must argue. I told my dad that I was going to hell [which I do think I am since I don't supposably have respect for my parents] He told me not to speak like that and then 10 minutes later my brother cursed and they blamed it on me although I rarely curse. And their begining to blame me for everything even ridicoulous things. I can't argue anymore so I think I'll just take it before it gets worse.

But it hurts badly. i think its their way of shunning me from the family.

oh well. my life sucks anywayy.

I didn't say anything. And I can hear them talking right now about how I was the underlaying cause of all the arguements.

I feel like ****. And I feel bad because I know I cause them a lot of problems whenever I must argue. I told my dad that I was going to hell [which I do think I am since I don't supposably have respect for my parents] He told me not to speak like that and then 10 minutes later my brother cursed and they blamed it on me although I rarely curse. And their begining to blame me for everything even ridicoulous things. I can't argue anymore so I think I'll just take it before it gets worse.

But it hurts badly. i think its their way of shunning me from the family.

oh well. my life sucks anywayy.

Answer 1

oh, thats ok. i'm sorry you're having such a tough time. my parents do the same thing too sometimes. They still love you, it's just normal for parents and kids to fight. think about all that and try to be a better person. ignore your brothers and suck up to your parents when you can. there's a saying in our family. "You have to kiss the arm you can't cut off" took me a while to figure that out. just try to stay away from them for awhile, and leave it to your parents to run the household. Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

I'm sorry, but some kids are brighter and have more common sense than their parents do. You are one of these kids. For one thing you are not going to hell for standing up for whats right, and stating your feelings. It sounds as if they are using you as a scapegoat for other underlying problems. It is not uncommon for some parents to mistreat just one child. I guess I wouldn't be the perfect child either if I always felt like my brothers were more loved and respected than I was by my parents. It's called acting out...not evil...not Satan! You may be better off talking to your brothers, I'm sure they notice the differences too. Talk to them about cleaning their own rooms, don't demand it, just state your feelings openly and honestly with them. If talking and agruing doesn't help your parents realize the turmoil you are going through, try writing them a letter. Try to bepositive in your letter while you are stating your feelings. Such as..."I know that you must love me, I'm your daughter...but sometimes I feel..." Don't make them feel as if you are attacking them, they will just get defensive. If writing the letter doesn't open their hearts and eyes up a little, then at least you will feel better yourself for writing it. Writing is very therapeutic. If you feel you cannot take it anymore, suggest to your parents you would like to seek counseling...they may see this like you are admitting it's all been you..but really the counselor will help you to be able to handle your living situation. I wish the best...and remember that you won't always be living under your parents roof.

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel. My parents make me do most of the work around the house while my two sisters eat chocolate and watch TV. My dad is a school psychologist and he always comes home mad and blames all of his rough work at us at home. Then, he asks me to help him work on something outside, and so I go outside. If I don't understand what he says, he blows saying I'm the most usless child in the family! I can't do anything without him blowing at me with his clouded blue eyes! And for the other people saying the parents still love you, and trying to protect you, they aren't! Keep working hard like me and if they explode at you for one of your brother's problems, I say yell back! If that doesn't work, then hang out alot with your friends, only coming home to sleep.

Hope you the best!

Answer 4

So what do you want from us? Please tell me that. If this is happening to you and not the other members of your family, then you must be doing something to cause it. Stuff like this doesn't just happen for no reason. Check yourself first before you try to demon-ise your parents. Put yourself in their shoes and tell me how you'd deal with a child like yourself? How would you handle the situation. Let me hear something positive from you instead of all this crap about how abusive your parents are. Then I'll give you my 2 cents. Eveyone has options in life. You're dealt a hand of cards in life and you can either play the hand or trade it in. What's it gonna be? Show us how and why you should be treated by showing some maturity here.

Answer 5

It sounds like your parents have a lot of emotional baggage. This baggage can manifest itself in many ways, including irrational anger, finger pointing, false accusations, etc.

Don't provoke them. Do what you must. But at the same time stay strong. You won't always live with them. You can move away and never see them again.

You might be the black sheep of the family. You might not be the favorite child. But don't let their low opinions of you get you down.

It sounds like they are brainwashing you. Think about it.

I sympathize.

Answer 6

Tell how you feel to your parents or talk to a counsler. Soon they will understand how you feel. I was in the same situation until I told my dad how I felt about how well he treats me compared to my sister.

Answer 7

my parents do somthing simular to me . I know it feels horrible when they say stuff like ur evil or ur satans kid i try to avoid going home and when I am I stay in my room as much as possible.

Answer 8

Oh, absolutely keep trying to run the household...works every time.

Answer 9

i am so sorry about how you feel your parents sound like jerks

Answer 10

I don't know. Are you?