Their Mother died in 2005 They were put in foster care in Aug for abuse from there father. I live in a one bed room house have a son living with me now. I help take care of my 87yr old mother and still work at a job 17hr a week. no other family member has offer to take them. I am the only one that ask to visit with them and have them .Their Mother was my daughter.
2007-02-14 11:51:22 · 10 answers · asked by barb.douglas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all I would like to extend my condolences in the loss of your daughter. Now to the concern at hand. I see all the challenges that you have given the age that you are and all the responsiblities you have. I am wondering if the son that is living with you now is in the position to assist you, because I can tell in your heart that you don't want these children in foster care system. If the answer is a no then, I would urge you to speak to pastor or someone in your area that can possibly put you on the right track in finding assistance to help you raise these children. Furthermore, if it is possible I also urge you to speak to your family members so all of you can somehow share the responsiblity of raising these children. I not sure if this answer has helped you, but I know that if you have the financial and emotional support of your family, this will work out. God bless and good luck.
2007-02-14 12:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Almarie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though money is tight and your situation is stressful now, I would take them in. Sounds like they have been through a lot, having to lose their mother was enough and then having been abused probably didn't help the situation.
I personally, don't think foster care is going to benefit these children. They need a loving home, and foster care can't always provide that. Even though you may not have a lot of money to give them endless toys or clothes; you will be able to provide love, support and structure into their already chaotic lives.
See if you can get support from the government in the form of food stamps, health care, etc to help raise these kids and give them the basic necessities.
2007-02-14 11:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss and the situation you are in, you are already in overload and I am wondering if you have sat with your family and discussed this, your home is definitely not big enough for little ones and everyone else, is the extra expense going to put more of burden on you mentally and physically, and you know with family they may all be gung ho at first but then to do this constantly you may be doing it all alone in the end.... its a great responsibility and without solid help from someone, I just dont think it would be good... foster care is not the greatest option but until you have a solid plan it might have to just do for the moment.. wish you well
2007-02-14 12:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tough question to answer. It sounds like you are already on "overload" and although your heart is in the right place taking in your two grandchildren would be much too much for you to handle. You could end up in a hospital from both physical and mental/emotional exhaustion, then you would be of no use to anyone including yourself. Ask God for wisdom and guidance with this difficult decision and I pray that everything will work out in the most incredibly wonderful way for you and these two precious children.
You are a very kind and caring person who deserves only "His" best in every area of your life.
2007-02-14 12:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should take them. I am currently taking care of my daughter's baby who had a heart transplant. I am single, had a good job making great money but now I can not work because she can not go to daycare. I am living on a very tight budget right now but it is worth it to me. My granddaughter smiles at me and nothing else matters. My situation is different because my daughter refuses to take responsibility for her child but the child shouldn't suffer because of the parent(s) stupidity. There are agencies that will help you and Foster care will give you money every month for having them. Do it!
2007-02-14 12:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by MI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 62 and have a daughter, 37, and a son who is 34. I have 5 grand daughters, ages 13, 11, 10, 7, and 2.
2016-05-23 23:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Delilah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely take them in. I know you have alot on your plate, but what those children really need is love and it sounds like you can give it to them. I know it sounds like alot to take on at your age, but I'm sure its what your daughter would want! Look what they have been through, lost their mother,abused by their father and sent away with strangers, they have had a very rough start in life! The best thing for them, is to be with family and to be loved!
2007-02-14 12:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
take them or they are headed for foster homes, and possibly more abuse,, they need you more than your son or your mom, their future may count on it. your mom needs to find somewhere else. she will only get more needy, and then what?? find somewhere for her, call some people, and your son if he is over 21, needs to go, if he stays and the kids are there- is he of sound moral character? i believe you owe your daughter this much.
2007-02-14 12:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them in. Those kids are young and it sounds like they've been through a lot. They need something stable. It isn't good for kids to not have a permanate life. Take them in.
2007-02-14 12:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by Vshak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well are you physically able to? And you know you should be able to get aide for them from the state and get sec 8 housing... you have to try these are your grandchildren they need you.... And would you really be happy knowing they were with strangers????
2007-02-14 12:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by vicki m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋