what is the best way to forget the one you love that hurt you?

Answer 1

time and finding someone else

Answer 2

first u must go through a grief process, it does not happen over night, the more u loved them the longer it is going to take. u will never forget it, but as time goes on the pain does diminish. first step is accepting what has happened and knowing that it wasn't all your fault no matter what they tell u. stages of grief
shock, is this real?
denial we aren't able to accept it
anger we may lash out at that person
resolution feeling that there is a way out of this
acceptance
we accept the things we can't control in life and just let them be whatever they are going to be
find a meaning for your suffering, help others who are going through the same thing practice unconditional love for yourself, don't measure your self worth by what was done to u or their opinion of u, if u do it will only leave u open to chronic insecurity, and a fragile self esteem.

Answer 3

Try to really grasp the saying "it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all". The way I see it I have been lucky to have loved many in many different ways and to have been loved by many in many different ways.The hurt was worth the scrap book of memories I will always have in my heart. If anything I feel lucky to be so resilient that I survived heartbreak and went on to find a even greater love. Just be thankful for the opportunity to have shared love with another human being, love it for what it really was and let it rest as just fond memories. Don't try to forget, that would make a phase of your life pointless and have no meaning. Try to look at the experience as something good instead of something negative. You survived it and for that alone you became stronger.

Best of luck to you...and Happy V-day!

Answer 4

You say the one you love, so maybe you shouldn't forget him, but rather figure out why he hurt you. Ww are the ones who hurt ourselves with our own punishment. Find out if he loves you or not. If he does, try to forgive. If he doesn't you can forget him with time and remembering yourself that love can't be onesided. Really... if you still love him, chances are you still think somewhere inside that he loves you at least a bit.

Do things which don't include him, but first clear your heart. You can send him a letter in a constructive tone.

And let go... life is to sweet to go around feeling hurt and harbouring resentment.

Answer 5

First is there any hope for the relationship to continue?-- If so just realize the you care very much for the person(forgive and forget) and move on with the relationship- But if it is over you must try to get into something that occupies your mind- also realize there will be a time of suffering, but you will get thru it- There are lots of people out there that want your time and energy- Put yourself out there and see what you find- Be good to people- They will be good to you- Mom of Many

Answer 6

i`m still trying to figure that out myself.I`m just really taking things a day at a time and i know it will take a while but i also know it will get better,you just need to stay strong and forget the good times and concentrate on all the bad bits so you can get angry,it works for me anyway.

Keep yourself busy and go out with friends and try enjoy yourself,don`t go looking for someone new untill your totally ready,my ex only left 6 weeks ago and my mum is already wondering who his replacement is going to be as she thinks that will make me happy!!But i have a son to think of so wont be that easy.

Don`t make the mistake i made in taking them back as if it didn`t work out this time then i really don`t think it will next time and you end up getting hurt even more believe me! goodluck,x

Answer 7

Stay clean and go on to be very happy. Occupy yourself with things that you will really look forward to. When my ex left me, I was devastated and had no path to take. I sat down and wrote all of my dreams and turned them into goals. Now that middle school teacher (me!) who dressed like a dork, loves to jetski, travelled the world, parasailed and ispursuing a different degree. Not to mention how stylish she got in that process! My ex who left me for another is now getting a divorce and gained 130lbs. I never wished anything bad for him. Too much waste of my own energy...
Start by trying new things you never dreamed of. One day, you will realize you were saved from a bad relationship when you meet the right person :)

Answer 8

keep the thought in the back of your mind that your future could be pretty amazing if you can just deal with the current situation and find a healthy way to move forward because there are millions of people out there you've never met, and i'm pretty sure a large number of them would be even better for you!

don't get stuck on anyone. move forward no matter how painful.

Answer 9

There is no cure for a broken heart, in time you will fall in love again, and that person might be your true love, and you will forget in time the person who hurt you. Time heals wounds of the heart.

Answer 10

More details would help, ever situations different. I would find something new to start to get your mind off of it, an aerobics class, a class at a school, books, learn a hobby, something that makes YOU feel good and concentrate on that. We can dwell on our sorrows all day but that will only make us miserable, create some new positives in your life to fufill your void.

Answer 11

You will never forget them, just remember the good times you had rather than the bad.

It aint easy, we all had our fair share of ups and downs, but life goes on,, so ya best live it.....