My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now, and she has problems showing she wants to have sex with me. She says she wants it, but never shows it. To me it means a lot more if she would just show that she wants to start once in a while. She says she is shy and thinks she would look stupid, and i just want her to show more interest in it.
2007-02-14 11:44:50 · 11 answers · asked by nyyanks831 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She probably is not ready!
2007-02-14 11:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say: "been there done that. U don't want to go there." The back story: my ex had been asking me to have a threesome for quite a while. Well one night I saw this other guy and just had to have him. So I went and told my ex that we could have a threesome, but only if it was with the other guy. Well now, 15+ years later, the ex is still an ex and the "other guy" is my husband. Unless you are willing to lose her to him, I suggest you keep her all to yourself. And find other ways to spice things up. Oh, and also from personal experience, she will probably have a crazy sex drive when she gets around 30+, so if u are still around then, be prepared for the crazy stuff u are wanting now. She'll be ready. At least I am.
2016-03-29 06:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want spontanious sex. Thing is you have to make it romantic. Find some way to get out of the norm and make it special for you both. Example, me and my girlfriend are big anime nerds. So basically we saved up for graduation and an after graduation thing to go with friends to an anime expo. Well I got a private hotel room for me and my girlfriend for during that time. So we had fun during the day and were romantic at night. My girlfriend is the same way as yours. Still is. But after that, I convinced her to go for it more whenever we were alone. Maybe the same will happen for you.
2007-02-14 12:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by rezruf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a girl who sounds just like her......don't put so much pressure on her having to show it because making it known that your watching her like a hawk will not make it any better. She says she want it, right?!?!?! Then she needs you to show her first, until shes comfortable enough to start showing it herself. Believe me, i thought i was being obvious and showing him, without making it tooo obvious, and in the end, he stopped trying too cause i wasnt comfortable with being all out there and he wanted ME to show it. Take her by the hand, into a quiet room where SHES comfortable, hold onto her tight, but soft. run your hands along her arms and across her stomach (it sends tingles that make her feel good) dont rush into the act, take time just to kiss and comfort her, slowly. and stop trying to change her, she wont unless you let her do it slowly, youd be surprised. You give to her a little, and shell shine for you. (all in due time my boy)
2007-02-14 11:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by SLIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make your girlfriend do anything. It has to come from her. She has to overcome her "shyness" by herself. Have you ever actually calmly talked about it with her without trying to force her to have sex afterwards? Sorry if im misunderstanding your question, but thats what it sounds like to me.
2007-02-14 11:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by Blackangel2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could convince one for her more promiscuous friends coach her. I don't think you should be the one to teach her just because well ur a guy no offense. A girl could tell her what to do how and why.
2007-02-14 11:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jusy because she says she wants to have sex doesn't mean that she wants to. Just give her time, she'll come around
2007-02-14 11:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by *Dancer 4 ever* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just becasue she say's she wants it doesn't mean she does...maybe she just thinks she has to say that so you don't get mad and leave her...give her time...if you really like her you'll wait until she is ready
2007-02-14 11:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CREEP-O GET A LIFE
2007-02-14 11:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whip it out on her, it's been a year already!
2007-02-14 11:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by DaLab 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋