Weird dating question-Has this happened to you?

Question

I really like this guy and he's really nice I love talking to him. I have a class with a friend of his so I befriended his friend in order to see the guy I like and find out more about him. However, my plan backfired and now the friend has asked for my number to "call me sometime" and I think that the guy I like thinks I like his friend. Has this ever happened to anyone else? How did it end up?
Any ideas would be welcomed.

P.S. I think that I was wrong for "using" his friend but sometimes when you like someone you have to ask the friends about what they like right?

Jessica: If you HAD read this you would have read that I actaully asked 2 questions: Has this happened to you? How did it end up?
Go back and read it if you would like. But don't give any rude answers especially if you didn't even read it.

WOW Everyone else has been giving me GREAT answers! Thank you all for your amazing advise. I didn't flirt with his friend, but I DID flirt a lot with my guy who I like.
You are right, I will handle this with care!

Answer 1

Look be honest with this guy, you state that you like talking to him, you never know how this will turn out....I would give him my phone # and remain friends, this guy you really like just might turn out to be a real jerk, every woman needs a man friend and it sounds to me that this other one can be that person. Come on just give him your phone # and be friends.

Answer 2

This was for someone that asked the same kind of question as you and I thought it would work here as will..

We have this same question in here fifty times a day, and it's the same old answer.

If you want to know if someone likes you, you have to big enough to go and ask him. Start talk about something that person in to don’t talk about what someone said about someone else, make small talk and see if you two have something there or not.


Don't send a friend that doesn't work so many times the person is going to like the friend because that person was willing to come up and start talking to them in the first place. So do your own dirty work and if it doesn’t workout for you, you'll learn more for the next time. But don't give up that's is a big part of life and trust me just because your get older it don't get any easier to talking to the ones you have feelings for, so start when your young so you be like a pro later in life.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Well yeah it happened to me before....

This is what happens if there are "bridges" coz the bridge usually get the girl or the boy... Every thing is now much more complicated since this is gonna be a love triangle of some sort the best advice i can give you is to ask the friend if the guy you like is dating someone and also give him hints that you like his friend and not him or if you like tell him to his face and honestly that your interested in his friend but do it like your talking to a kid...

Another would be to hang out with the guy you like and not with friend this would make the guy you like to like you more as well...

I don't mean to be rude though but next time you get information don't get it from the opposite sex coz this usually get really complicated... you should ask from the same gender this would help you boost your relationship especially if the girls like you... this would make them like you for him as well... well that's next time...

Anywat Good Luck! ^_^

Answer 4

Sounds like you didn't get far enough along in your "investigation". I wouldn't lead him on. Maybe tell him that you like someone, but don't tell who. Still be friendly. Don't change who you are or he will think you were using him, and that will spread to his friend. If you decide to give him your number, let him know its just as friends. Maybe you have a friend who might be compatible with him. Maybe the 4 of you can hang out. You might need to make your feelings for the guy you do like more obvious.

Answer 5

This happened to me once. It didn't turn out great. Not only did the friend I used end up getting the idea that I wanted him(which I DID NOT), he started talking crap to his friend about me (after I rejected him). The one I liked was a lost cause. I haven't used a guy ever since that incident. Hope things work out though for you. Not all of these situations end up tragic! :)

Answer 6

It happens and it is not wrong to use the friend because it is not really using them - just networking. Be friendly with the friend and also start being friends with the actual guy. If the friend invites you out, ask him to invite the guy that you like as well. Or go up to the guy you like and ask him out with something along the lines of "it is really nice knowing you. I was wondering if you'd like to hang out with me sometimes. If YOU want, we can invite friends as well." Works. Good luck.

Answer 7

If you wanted information from the friend, then you should have been upfront about it. Girls/women always have to play these manipulative, devious little games, making all of their schemes. "Oh, what a tangled web you weave, when first you practice to deceive." Doesn't anyone learn anything from Shakespeare anymore?

The longer you don't come clean about what you intended, the more messed up everything is going to be.

Have fun.

Answer 8

Ya kinda, but im a guy so it was in the reverse direction. Dont do it too often cuz they will talk and he or us guys will get a lil paranoid and not know wat to think, like if u hang out with a friend that is a guy we will get all paianoid. at least me anyhow. u can ask questions bout him but not very often.

Answer 9

there are millions of questions just like this on here, please take my advice and tell people how you feel. if he says no he says no, but at least you will know. there is no heart ache like wondering what might have been and if you missed the chance to be with your soul mate because you would not tell them how you felt

Answer 10

I say strait out tell them both but tell the friend first. then tell the guy that u like. if you dont everyone will be hurt later. better now that later. and it will feel worse later.