please help, need to know what to do?

Question

i am getting married in july and have asked my grandfather to give me away. but, i am getting back feed back from some of my family. i dont have a relationship with my father what so ever, and they want me to ask him to give me away, but the way i see it he has never had me. what should i do, any information or advise will help. thanks

Answer 1

It's your wedding, and none of your family has any business telling you that you should have your dad give you away.

Tell the that it's your wedding, and hopefully your only one, and you want your grandfather to give you away.

Period.

Answer 2

That is your day. Stick to your guns, you do not need the stress of a non present father.This is not about him, it is about you. If your grandfather is uncomfortable, then you can't make him give you away. Just let him know why you want him and that it would make your day so much nicer.

My Dad was a practicing alcoholic at the time I got married and I wasn't even sure if he would be sober for the wedding or not.
He was but he wouldn't wear a tux and insisted on a blue suit that he had... Again what a selfish man It was not his day!

Answer 3

Um...It's your day and you should feel comfortable and confidant with who walks you down the isle. If you honestly want your gramps to do it, just tell your family members that you've already asked the grandfather and that you would hate to take that away from him now and that you are sure your father would understand. You did the right thing....your family means well, but, they need to let you follow your heart in love, marriage, and planning your wedding....

Answer 4

if you feel best about having your grandfather walk you down, by all means. Maybe you can meet in the middle by acknowledging your father in some way...or have both walk you down. Either way...do what YOU want to do. People always throw fits about other people's weddings and then forget about it after the wedding...don't let the stress ruin your special time!

Answer 5

If you ask dad it could be a way to heal a broken part of your life. Tell him you feel that he gave you away in the past, but now you want him to do it for the real reason. If he can't, then it will have to be his problem to deal with, and then go with grandad because he's the real "dad" in your life.

But only ask dad, (send him a card, an invitation to give you away if face to face is difficult) if you think he'll be the least bit receptive.

Answer 6

Go with your grandfather. He has been there for you all your life and deserves to walk you down the aisle. But you should at least dance with your father at the reception

Answer 7

I would ask who is closest in my heart. If your grandfather is ask hime I'm sure he would be honored. Then maybe your dad will be there and you can begin to build on that. It's your special day and sounds like your grandfather is just that. Congrats

Answer 8

You choose the man in your life that means the most to you...if it is a g/father or a brother or an uncle. For that matter, it doesn't have to be male. A mom could do it in lieu of a dad, etc.

Answer 9

You've already asked grandfather. Leave it that way.

Family wants to argue the point, simply tell them that it's your wedding, and you'll do it your way.

Answer 10

Do what you are wanting to do. Its your day and you choose who you want. Have your dad apart of other things if he wants to, like have a reading or say a speach, but for walking you down the aisle you should have the one who is closest to you. If others are having bad things to say, shut them out, tell them that you dont want to hear it anymore, and that its you day and your choice.