I was legally married on September 18, 2006. We couldn't afford a wedding at the moment. We're back on our feet now, and we decided to have one September 16th, 2007. Yay finally, I'm so excited. However, it might seem so weird. Walking down the aisle, being annonced as husband and wife. When we were already married. Anyone seen or heard of a similiar situation. Do I have to tell the rabbi and priest (I'm Jewish, he's Catholic) that we were previously married?
2007-02-14 11:36:31 · 12 answers · asked by Soldier'sWife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have a friend who did what you are planning to do. She and her husband had planned a March wedding but the fall prior to that his ex started to make trouble for them (there was a child involved) so they had a civil ceremony in Nov but still went ahead w the wedding in March. Not all the guests knew the truth, the minister preformed the ceremony as he normally would've and they did tell him. They still haven't told everyone about the 1st ceremony - they like having a secret anniversary and they celebrate both. It did not seem weird as a guest - we were there to celebrate their union and other than parents none of us had been present for the ceremony in Nov.
They had been living together prior to the March ceremony.
2007-02-14 12:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, you are already married.... there is no purpose to another "marriage", and you certainly shouldn't be "walking down the aisle". .. sorry to be a downer for you... but be realistic. Your first wedding was what it was, regardless of the circumstances. Those should be the memories you cherish. Otherwise, it's just a sham.
However, if you each want a religious blessing of some sort, work that out with the rabbi and the priest. And, duh, of course you have to tell them you are already married....
Another alternative is to wait until you are married 10 or 25 years and have a vow renewal ceremony.
2007-02-14 13:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married civilly, but not in the eyes of the church or the jewish faith- so you are not married in the eyes of God.
So, in both faiths, you are fornicating.
If you could bother to go to a justice of the peace, why could you not go through the proper channels of your faiths.
A wedding doesn't 'cost' anything, beyond the honorarium given to the officiant- and you obviously had that. Why is it now important to you to go through the motions? Are you concerned about it so you can have the big party and get the money and gifts?
Yes, you must tell the priest and rabbi you are civilly married. It completely changes EVERYTHING. For example, you don't get married in the Catholic church, you have the marriage convalidated.
2007-02-14 15:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its not all that uncommon these days. You have to tell the catholic priest but he will be happy your doing a church wedding... and if its a big wedding this time most of the people wouldnt have seen the first one right? no big deal have fun and enjoy the gifts
2007-02-14 11:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by vicki m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've heard of that before. I went to a wedding last summer of some friends who got married at the jp so that she could get to live with him and get benefits before he had to leave on a deployment (he's a marine). Then when he got back they planned the big shindig in his home town and did the whole regular wedding thing then. It was perfect.
2007-02-15 09:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen it a lot. Its more common than you might think. It's best to tell the rabbi/preist a head of time to let him know. Its not weird at all, its showing the world the love you have for one another plus everyone wants to have a wedding wedding.
CONGRADS
2007-02-14 13:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the people who do vow renewals. It will be fine. The rabbi and priest should have no problem with it.
Congratulations on your marriage AND ceremony!
2007-02-14 11:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by BellyRubz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i actually had a friend that alot of their family couldnt make it down to their wedding so they had another wedding and reception ( a bit smaller) for that part of the family when they went up to see them . So nothing weird at all :) congrats even if you already are married!
2007-02-14 12:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do it all the time it's just a renewal of wedding vows there should be no shame in telling the rabbi or priest and congradulations to you and your husband
2007-02-14 12:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should tell them, but if they are reasonable they will understand that this is the real ceremony and it is significant as a family event and a public marriage, rather than the elopement you already had.
2007-02-15 08:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋