I just had 2 failed relationships in the past year and just recently. I have done nothing wrong, never cheated, and loved them with all I can give but then they always hurt me so I end up breaking off with them. Is it the fact that I`m still celibate and wont sleep with my ex`es?
2007-02-14 11:31:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are looking at all wrong... You being celibate would not end a relationship that is meant to be. Possibly it helps weed out the ones that aren't worth your time or heartache! Maybe you are just getting involved with Mr.Wrong and thats why your relationships fail.
Let me assure you, when you finally find "the one" he will greatly appreciate that you made a choice not to sleep with every guy you dated!
Keep being true to yourself!
2007-02-14 11:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL! I'm just like you! I'm a good girl myself and i am also celibate. First of all, don't take yourself too seriously with the 2 failed relationships...it's not you - relationships are like that. It's inevitable that you break up and move on and find another guy. Take those situations and turn it into something positive. Don't think about it as "2 failed relationships" but 2 relationships that just didn't work out in which you've learned and grew in both experiences -because of those 2 relationships, you've become a stronger woman and you're ready for the next adventure. I'm the same with you - i've never cheated, flirted with any of my boyfriends or boys of interest and i've always been loyal but that's life. So don't take that too personal, l? Another thing is, you're a smart girl for breaking it off with them if they're gonna end up hurting you - that shows strength and independence and proof that previous relationships and experiences HAVE molded you into the wonderful good girl that you are. Most women can't even acknowledge it when their men mistreat them so props to you! The fact that you're celibate could be the reason why those guys are jerks...could not - it really depends on the guy. but here's the thing: it's not your fault - if you really feel that way and that's your decision, then the guy will respect it if he really loves you and i know you know that - just keep strong and stick to your values and beliefs - good girls don't finish last...look at it this way: they may not get A guy like "that" and right away but in the right time, they'll get the THE guy. Feel better! Good luck!
2007-02-14 19:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought that if i slept with the guy, left him have what he wanted, loved them with i can give---then it would work, they would want me. But thing is, i ended up hurt and breaking it off, but instead of holding my dignity, i lost it before i began. Your failed relationships aren't because your celibate, cause if you weren't and you gave in, chances are you'd end up in the same position as you are now, only with one less part of you intact. Hold true to your believes, and make sure that any new relationship understands how important it is to you to keep it that way. If they don't like it......too bad!!! your the one who has to live with the decision, not them
2007-02-14 19:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by SLIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
celibacy is a noble statement, but if your x boy friends don't see the value in you chastity then its time that they did move on, My sister was always bringing home the type of guys that were out of comic books handsome charming apparently trust worthy, all three dumped her Hard to understand when she is gorgeous and very talented smart and a terrific singer. she had no interest in giving her flower to someone that would only be her man if she was to give in.
Mother told her if she wanted to change her life all she had to do was find out how the potential boyfriends would treat their parents and their siblings, she said because they will treat her the same way in a few years. stick with your plan Ms. you will be a real prize for the right guy .
2007-02-14 19:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by t-bone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they dont know what they are missing. if they cant understand that celibacy is what you believe then forget the. they arent worth it. you'll find someone whose worth it. everyone has failed relationships its part of life. keep living your life the way you do and everything will work out for you.
2007-02-14 19:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by *little miss sunshine* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares. You're a good girl and that's all that matters. You will find the right one someday, relax!
2007-02-14 19:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just picked the wrong guys.
2007-02-14 19:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait and one day the right guy will come along and really appreciate you
2007-02-14 19:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not --- maybe raise your standards --- there are guys that will respect your wishes and want to know you better --- best wishes
2007-02-14 19:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you said you broke it off?????
2007-02-14 19:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋