Knowing that I will do it anyway.
2007-02-14 11:21:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, it depends on how close in age they are. If you have them close together, it's very expensive and much work. Little opportunity to re-use clothing, etc.
If you space them out a few years between each one, the older ones can do things for themselves while the younger ones still need more help.
The biggest challenge will be time. There will only be 2 parents and having the time to spread across the bunch will be tough. Remember that your spouse can get lost in the need for time as well.
Everything else can stretch within limits of design and money.
2007-02-14 11:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the youngest of five, and I have four older brothers. They were 8, 6, 4 and 3 years older then me. We weren't close as kids at all, they used to push me around and stuff but they were close, in two's (if that makes sense, the oldest 2 were buddies and the younger 2 were also) I'm closer now with the younger two lol but I'm friendlier with their wives... they are all good friends. Things would probably be different if I had a sister. My parents treated me great though!
I only have two kids myself, mainly because I hated being one of five... people assumed I was "a mistake" which I wasn't. I have two boys who are 3 years apart and for the most part get along well! I wanted them to have a sibling, not just an only child.
The pro's of it is if you love kids, you have a lot! And when one is becoming a teenager, you still have a younger one.
Do what you want, in the end, it's your life and your decision
2007-02-14 21:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kristen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're keen :p I'm a mother of two small girls and it is very hard work, although I love every minute of it. I have a test for you which will determine whether or not you are ready to have children, lol.
1. When you get your payslip this week, take enough to get the essentials for yourself (i.e. basic food, toilet paper, soap etc...) then burn the rest.
2. Take all your favourite CD's/DVD's, and scratch them with a blunt object.
3. Take a red felt pen and doodle on your favourite book.
4. Take your favourite shirt and cover it in milk, sit it in the sun for 3 hours, then put it back on.
5. Set your alarm to go off every 2-3 hours (even at night) at which time you must put aside whatever it was you were doing (including sleep), put on the shirt (see # 3), and walk around your house for an hour holding a 3kg bag of oranges in one arm, and a blanket, a cup, a bowl and a spoon in the other. (Any objects will do, it's the number of them that's important)
6. Multi-task. Cook dinner, wash up dishes, run a bath, put on a load of washing, and make a phonecall....all at the same time.
7. To ready yourself for teenagers: Pour out half of your bottle of scotch...fill the rest with tea and put it back.Water is to be added to Vodka in the same fashion. Don't hang your clothes...just throw them on the floor, and lastly pick some music that irritates you, put it on repeat for an entire day, and turn the volume up.
If you can do this day after day without being committed to a mental institution you have passed the test!
Ahhh, I jest. Like I said, Children are hard work...and they are quite expensive. But these things aren't important. The most important question to ask yourself is whether you have enough love to give, because it's love that children need the most. :)
Good luck
Heidi
2007-02-14 21:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by heidi_ho_the_goat_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are great ( a pro), know that your every moment will be dictated by their needs. When and how often you sleep, eat, shower..etc. I have been married 10 years and have 2 little girls (ages 3 and 4), my spouse and I don't have a lot of alone time and dates have to be scheduled in advance (and always subject to change at the last minute). The smiles and love you get from a child is priceless, watching them learn and grow, molding them into good people is a full time job. You don't get days off, no sick days, holidays or vacations. It is 24 hours a day, seven days a week, but worth it.
2007-02-14 19:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by ladyc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my parents had 8 kids (i'm the 3rd oldest). I remember being a kid, and always feeling a little ignored because my parents always had to focus on a new baby. Sometimes I wish I didnt have such a big family, but it's kind of cool to have a lot of siblings. One con is that you will need a lot of money. My parents were middle class, and I remember how fun it was sharing a room with my older brother until I was 15 and he went to college.
2007-02-14 20:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a really good job... Children are expensive and a lot of people with that many children (unplanned anyway) end up on some kind of government assistance, Do your children a favor, go to school save up, wait till you can afford that many children have a whole litter if you want, but still be a good parent. More children more smiles.
2007-02-16 14:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kais Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros.................... almost enough to have your own baseball team when they get older. Plus, the older ones can babysit the younger ones while you and their Dad go out to dinner for some much needed alone time. Cons? Too many to count. For one, the hundreds of dollars it will take each week to feed/cloth a family of this size. Not to mention the doctor bills. You will be heavily in debt unless your husband is a doctor or a good attorney.
2007-02-14 20:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by up_all_night 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My sister is on her 7th child! I would say that her dh works A LOT of hours just to cloth & feed them.. It may be a good idea to get a great job before you start having kids or start your own daycare business-lol
I have 2 boys myself, and I Love them to bits! We've also chosen private schooling for both so it does get expensive, but it WILL be worth it in the end. It's all in how you can handle pregnancy,etc..it WILL definetely make up your mind! :) HTH!
2007-02-14 19:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by boxerlover_96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros
More kids to love
more memories to share
more proms to go to
more tears to shed
more kids to take care of you when you are old
Cons
more laundry to do
more mouths to feed
more kids to discipline
more backs to clothe
I say figure it out when you are older. Some people have many kids and live perfectly normal and happy lives. You just distribute the work and everyone in the family helps. You will find out when you are older. Good luck!
2007-02-14 20:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by Okay.... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE TO SAY THAT I NEVER MET ANYONE LIKE YOU THAT WOULD LIKE TO HAVE MANY KIDS WEN HE GROWS UP! I DON'T SEE ANY BAD THINGS IN THAT THE ONLY THING I COULD TELL YOU THAT IT WILL BE A CONS IS THE FACT THAT YOU WILL HAVE TO HAVE MORE MONEY TO SUPPORT ALL OF THEM AND THE FACT THAT YOU WILL NOT HAVE A LOT OF PEACE AND QUIET WITH 5 KIDS AROUND
2007-02-15 03:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋