I always get it is my medication or it's my period. I was thinking of her lack of commiment to our relationship.
2007-02-14 11:10:56 · 38 answers · asked by jeff v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You think its bad now, wait until you are married. You have to work out her issues with sexual abuse as a child now, before you get married!
2007-02-14 11:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, thats a good question which is complicated to answer. She may want to wait until the wedding night. I know, you're thinking, but you've done it already, but for women, its still a special thing for that special night and if that is why, she should have talked to you about it. If I were you I would approach her and ask why, be sure to start with telling her how it makes you feel that she has stopped...for example, Honey, lately ive been feeling neglected and un-needed because you haven't wanted to lay with me (or whatever terms you guys use). I just wondered if we could talk about this because if it is something I am doing or if there is something I am not doing, I want to work on it.....
In other words, make sure she knows its not just about you wanting sex, but that you are concerned about her and the relationship....
2007-02-14 11:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by no_me_no_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're planning to live with her the rest of your lives, try sitting down and talking about it with her. Explain your concerns and let her open up to you. If she continues eluding you, try suggesting you postpone the marriage until this problem is worked out. There's nothing worse in a relationship, especially a legally bonded one, than lack in communication. After all, this could be a life long commitment too (the no sex for you part), and no man deserves that headache, in extended-release pill or period form.
2007-02-14 11:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's preggers from some other guy, or a relative or something. It is a strong portent of your future, your going to feel like you married 150 lbs of frozen potato's. Sex isn't everything, but it beats whats in second place. Has she appraised the engagement ring, and run a background check on you. Did she find out about the felonies, the misrepresentation, the other families, the hooker you lived with in the back of a car. Has she got grounds to cut you off. Don't marry her you fool Run.
2007-02-14 22:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because she doesn't have a real high sex drive and doesn't like having sex a lot. I think I would be like that myself it is nice occasionally, but not all the time. It's not that she doesn't want to be with you, im sure she loves you, but she might not be enjoying the sex, maybe it's not that great for her. Or sometimes it could be her meds or her period. Have a talk with her if things don't change.
Good Luck.
2007-02-14 11:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion is that your finance has lost interest in you all together and that he or she may be one step closer to cheating, if not already doing so. I would try to spice up the sex with a trip together to a local xxx shop and see what you both find interesting in there for the two of you to try. And be opened minded, even just watching a xxx movie together may help a great deal.
2007-02-14 11:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by blue23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she would like to make sure that you are not marrying her just for sex. When you say she "stopped having sex" do you mean totally, or as often as YOU think is required? Is she still planning the wedding? If you are having a problem with her sexual appetite, you need to talk about it... with HER!
2007-02-14 11:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of reasons. Either she's got cold feet, not in the mood, trying to hold out for the honeymoon or she could be cheating on you.
Not to scare you or anything, but it's a possibility. Look for other signs, I hope it's not that. I hope it's just that she's just holding out for the honeymoon.
2007-02-14 11:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by jules44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends , sometimes girls are just "not in the mood" I mean if she still shows love, except the sex, then yeah i think she would still love you but if she shows no interest anymore i mean like none, then it may be lack of commitment. be up front and honest, ask her. if u see she still loves you... try the neck kissing- it always works. :) good luck
2007-02-14 11:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by *Alicia* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way for us to answer that question - sit down and have a calm, caring talk with her and relate it to your concern about her and your relationship. And medication and period symptoms definitely affect sex drive.
2007-02-14 11:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
dude...you have to nip that bud in the butt before it grows...
funny, i had a bit of your situation happen to me...i got engaged and suddenly the sex slowed down...
i tried cumminicating, i tried to do things around the house that i know made her happy ie; the dishes, helping with laundry, always having a full bottle of her favorite wine around...and it was still a trickle...
so i told her one day, about a woman who was hitting on me...leaving the situation as mysterious as possible...suddenly i'm getting it just about every night even when I dont want it...yeah jealousy is a real motivator for women...
2007-02-14 11:17:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋