Met this guy..."dated" for about a month (I didn't think we really developed a true dating relationship since he never asked me out on real dates...we'd just hang out at his place), then he "breaks up" with me via email. We talk after that because I'm very hurt and disappointed, and now are seeing each other about once a week for sex/romance/companionship, with him frequently saying, "we're supposed to be broken up." His actions when we are together are very caring and tender, yet he does not consider us dating because he says he doesn't feel "romance."
2007-02-14 11:02:36 · 5 answers · asked by Janet T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he both said he doesn't feel romance and he doesn't mix sex and romance it only means one thing: he sees your relationship as merely sexual. Maybe he broke up with you because he could see you were falling for him and didn't want to hurt you. I had a relationship years ago that resembled this pattern. And I desperately wanted to believe that if he kept seing me and having what you call sex/romance/companionship moments with me it was because he was actually in love but wouldn't admit it. But I was wrong. If I had listened to what he was really saying (approximately the same things your guy says) I would have let go of this affair and I would have saved myself a loooot of suffering.
He keeps coming back because of sexual attraction. But he'll probably never be in love with you. Give it up...
2007-02-14 11:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think this guy is a jerk! He's using you for your body and is telling you out right . Move on! You deserve so much better in life. A man that will treat you with honour and respect, now that's love and hey even romance. Good luck
2007-02-14 11:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell would you care about what anyone else thinks? I think he is being honest about what kind of a person he is. Obviously it upsets you, so why are you wasting your time asking other people when only you know what you want?
2007-02-14 11:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by Bobby the Brain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a booty call to him, nothing more.
That's ok if you don't want anything else.
But, I think you do.. so kick him to the curb and find a man who wants it all with you: Romance and sex... and respects you as icing on the cake.
2007-02-14 15:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by pa_browneyedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
P-L-A-Y-E-R....hey, but at least he's an honest one!
2007-02-14 11:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by adollorthreeninetyfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋