How do I prepare?
2007-02-14 11:00:07 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Prepare by realizing that she is going to be spending a lot of her time away from home. She may stay out very late at night without telling you where she is or who she is with. She is going to be used to doing things on her own terms without parental supervision and you shouldn't try to reinforce rules from her youth onto a girl who is turning into a woman.
I'm not saying turn a blind eye to her actions, just don't condemn her for not always checking in.
2007-02-14 11:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make her feel welcome to return home while she finds the start of the next chapter in her life.
WARNING: If you cater too much to her new independence, you may find she stays home longer than you'd like. No matter what age, adult children should respect the rules of the home.. meaning, if she's going to be out late, she needs to call you and let you know when to expect her. Doing so is simply an adult courtesy, so you won't worry about her. It's not about you checking up on her or giving her permission to go out, it's just about common courtesy. Same goes with cars. If she has her own, no problem... but make sure you and your husband's car needs are met before you loan her a vehicle. That's real life. That's what she'll find with other adult room mates...
She may not like it... But it will let her know how the "real" world operates when it comes to borrowing, lending, moving in, sharing, and taking advantage of... which should nudge her toward life-long independence... Which is a good thing...
2007-02-14 16:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My biggest complaint about going home was that my parents treated me as though I was still 16 when I went home. I was given a curfew, wasn't allowed to borrow the car very often, was given a phone curfew, etc. I HATED that I was no longer able to come and go virtually as I pleased.
I think that you need to understand that she has been an independent, grown women and expects to be treated as such when she comes home. Also, since she has been living on her own, it is more than fair to expect her to really pitch in on making dinners, doing laundry and helping with chores.
As well, she may have some difficulties for the first week or two becoming adjusted to having her parents around, so be gentle :P
2007-02-14 14:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... Not enough info...
If you are friendly with each other be adults, like friends. Don't talk down to her and include her in any plans that she would appreciate being a part of.
Being away from home and returning can sometimes make you feel stranger... a stranger in your home. There now is this degree of separation that needs to be brought together again.
Have fun, don't expect too much at first. Communicate and depending if she is going to live with you again make some plans and include her in the decisions.
Let her know foremost that you love her and are sincerely glad to see her. Don't gush, just be sincere.
2007-02-14 11:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Golden Smile 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you realize that she has been used to being independent for awhile and will not like to nor be accustomed to telling you where she is going, who she is going with and when she will be home. Just give her her own space but make sure that she realizes that she is in your home not the other way around. She should make her life work around yours not you work around hers. She isn't moving home to a cook, maid and taxi driver just make sure she realizes that. Set some ground rules before she comes home that you can all agree on and it should be an easy transition. Good Luck!!
2007-02-14 15:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by ~Chica~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she has an agenda for the rest of her life. Not just sitting at home watching TV or talking to friends and going out. Most important item "Job". But most of all be there for her emotionally.
2007-02-14 11:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by Feline05 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 03:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she has a bed to sleep on with clean sheets.
2007-02-14 11:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she has a bed to sleep in, and make sure she gets a job.
2007-02-14 12:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a nice comfortable space for her and get ready to tell her to get her butt in a career.
2007-02-14 11:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋