2007-02-14 10:57:44 · 26 answers · asked by bportbaseball9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a guy forces you its rape. If she didnt report it she must feel it wasnt rape. If so then thats cheating.
Bill Clinton told me " eating aint cheating" - hes a damn liar.
2007-02-14 11:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by friendly advice from maine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a complicated question that would require more info, but here goes my best assessment. It is cheating in a way. Why was your girlfriend in harms way of another man to force himself on? Also, most men only advance if they feel there was already a spark there, which means she may have been flirting with the guy. If there was any kiss, hug, or anything like that, then yes, she cheated. Did she hug or kiss back?
2007-02-14 11:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by no_me_no_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question: you said she was forced. Force means that it was done with effort, exertion or pressure--that it was involuntarily--that it was done without permission and without a choice.
Say you're a vegetarian but someone holds a gun to your head and forces you to eat a steak. Does that mean you're not a vegetarian anymore because you were forced to eat a steak under duress??
Truthfully, if you have to ask this kind of question after already stating that she was forced, then you have larger issues than your girlfriend being forced to do whatever it was that happened. If I were her, I'd consider what kind of boyfriend I had in you since you seem to be displaying a lack of understanding and support.
2007-02-14 11:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by whispersofindigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did she tell him to stop and say no ?? I mean she could just be telling you she was forced so you don't break up with her. I would go up to the guy and ask what happend and get both saids of the story..maybe she was just telling you she was forced..I mean if he came on to her why didn't she just leave ?? She could have got outta there right ?? unless he tied her up or something.
2007-02-14 11:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe.
It wasn't her fault, as you say.
I can see how you might think it is cheating. But if you don't know the whole story, or just half of it, you never know.
Since you weren't there to see it, maybe you should ask.
But if she told you she was forced, you should trust her.
If you can't trust your girlfriend/boyfriend, then it wont last long.
You have to trust each other.
2007-02-14 11:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by ocho_dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that would be rape
and if she refuses to report it and tries to be like 'oh its ok not that big of a deal' type thing
then maybe she wasnt exactly 'forced on'
look her in the eyes and ask her if shes telling the truth
go off and think about it a little
[itll kill her too, and maybe she'll come clean]
put the peices together & just see what you come up with
but dont be mean. bc if shes telling the truth
it was already devistating enough
because it does happen obviously.
2007-02-14 11:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean he "forced" his self on? You mean forced his self on and had intercourse or forced on and kissed her?
Indeed if any of these happened it is not cheating, it is sexual harrassment; or rape if it he had intercourse. If she said he raped her, talk to her about going to authorities and notice her reaction, if this happened and she doesn't want to go, it sounds like she lied, or if it was simply forcing on and kissing, I would confront the guy, and see what he says.
2007-02-14 11:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by MonaLisa2626 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not cheating, and what i'm wondering is why you haven't tromped the guy already? He forced himself on your lady man, get some ballz and go kick some butt.
2007-02-14 11:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is cuz she did it and she knew she shouldn't be doing it and even though she was forced on she still did it knowing that she was doing wrong by cheating on u.so it doesn't matter if she was forced on she still cheated if forced on means rape dats not cheating but if she did it willingly dats cheating
2007-02-14 11:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldnt count that as cheating, I would be slightly pissed off with the guy and probably want to kick his ***.
2007-02-14 11:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋