Just an opinion, does anyone think that marriage at the age of 18 and someone who is 20 is too early or just fine? I plan on going to college, as well as my boyfriend. We've talked everything through just an opinion.
2007-02-14 10:52:32 · 18 answers · asked by pshhhbiteme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it's too young. People change significantly during college and there early 20's and may not want what the same things as they did when they were 18. If you can make it through college together and still come out as a committed and happy couple it shows you are ready and comitted to being together. Dont rush it.
2007-02-14 10:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be too early for marriage.
I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and we feel that at this moment we could get married, but we wont. We figure that if our relationship can last the length it takes us to finish uni (one year of deferring to work and 4 years of study) we might be ready but we'd probably still be too young. I'd only be 22 and he'd be 23.
We're thinking if we can make it till I'm 25 then we could get married. Seven years is a long time and so much can change. It's long enough to figure out what we both want in life and decide whether we can achieve those things together.
Besides, weddings are expensive! I'd rather work for a few years and have a nice wedding later rather then have a cheep wedding sooner!
Also, why do you want to get married so soon? Perhaps a better option would be to be engaged and still live together and do whatever it is you would do as a married couple, without all the legal ramifications and stress of getting and being married.
But you know what, it's your life. So do what ever you think will make you happy and be best for you and your partner.
2007-02-14 12:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really early. Try just living together or close by. You want to live in the dorms your first year of college so you will make all your college buddies. Besides you are still going through alot of personality chages at 18 and so is he at 20 that by the time you both get to 5 years later, your personality growth will either be stunted or frustrated. Give yourselves both some time to achieve your goals for yoursleves outside relatioships. Menaing finish college and start your careers befor egetting locked down and having to consider or people than yourself.
2007-02-14 12:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by RoadRunner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a lot of life to live yet and there is a great big world out there, what do you think your chances of already finding the one and only person your meant to be with all ready in your life. College alone will increase your exposure to such a wide variety of people and experiences. If you are supposed to be with this one person then a little time won't change that. Hold off awhile. Just an opinion.
2007-02-14 11:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brain is not even fully developed until your mid-twenties. Think about that first.
Secondly, you are a babe in the woods. You need to get your post-secondary education, start a career and earn money, live on your own and deal with the realities of life such as paying rent, bills, etc. - independently, not living with a guy. Women grow and change tremendously through to their mid-twenties. A guy who asked me to marry him when we were 19 was not a man at all I would have considered marrying at 24. And one at that age was totally unlike the man I married at 28. You need the life experience to truly see the world and learn about yourself first.
2007-02-14 13:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should finish college before getting married. College is a huge undertaking and requires a lot of time and energy. It is not the right time in your life to get married, the transition of two major life events at one time, is too much pressure.
Also, I really believe that both people should be over the age of 21 to get married. If you aren't able to legally drink at your own wedding, you are too young to be getting married.
2007-02-14 11:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 18 & 20 is too young
2007-02-14 12:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to early I think people need to be in their late late 20's or be in their 30's when they get married. You need to be mature and know what your getting into before you marry anybody. You have to realize that marriage is work and its not always easy.
2007-02-14 11:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry? If you're that sure of your feelings - a little wait won't hurt a thing. You are not the people you'll be even 5 years from now - why not become more of yourselves first - and then decide if you're still right for eternity.
2007-02-14 10:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Basia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you've graduated.
Marriage is hard work. College is hard work.
And if you're not careful a baby comes soon after marriage making college impossible for years.
2007-02-14 10:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋