my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 6 months. we've broken up twice because of different things but this time we were wanting to make it long term and to make it last. since the last time we broke up, we've been dating for a month and a half. i'm totally in love and so is he, but i've sort of been thinking i was bored in our relationship. my friend is dating this guy who's friend was with him twice when he came to see her and i was there too they introduced us and we sort of hit it off. [i didn't cheat, and didn't think about it. and her boyfriend says he'd take a chance at dating me] i think he's attractive and has a good personality, and i think that is the whole reason when i'm thinking i'm bored. i just want to figure out something i could do to help us. or if you think i should just end it and go on with my life.
2007-02-14 10:46:51 · 12 answers · asked by youmakemesmile :] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that if you really love you current boyfriend you should give it a chance; he could be worth it. You need to make sure that you can be without him and if you want to change something between you guys you should let him know. Also if you want him to change something or treat you differently, you should let him know. sometimes guys do things without realizing, trust me ;).
2007-02-14 10:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Rose H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I think you should break up. There is so many guys out there. Not only that, but why settle? I say becomes friends first and see what happens. I was single for 9 YEARS. That's right I repeat 9 years and it took me a while to get used to since I always has someone there. Even if it was a rebound, the important thing at that time ALL I cared about is that I was not alone. I have a daughter and for the safe of settling I began having a "Friend with Benefits". Not only was he not there throughout my pregnancy (not even to the 1st sonogram) he is not there now. Walk away now before it's to late and you kick yourself later. Spring/Summer is coming and you know what that means you will see a lot more guys will be out. Who know what can happen.
2007-02-14 10:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by imjulissandur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not ready to settle into one relationship. So why do it? You sound very young...anyone under the age of 30 is still young enough to not commit to one person if they get "bored" after only 6 months. Any one truly "in love" does not break up twice with in a 6 month period and then complain about "being bored" & "there's this other guy"...wake up, your not into the guy your with as much as you'd like to believe. Perhaps your in love with the "idea of being in love". It's worth looking into...find a good therapist to go over all this with you. It could also be that you enjoy the "chase" and now that you've "caught" one...it's time to "chase" again. Either way, you need a therapist to help sort all these issues out with. NOT us...but save yourself some divorce money and just date around til you can figure yourself out. Good luck
2007-02-14 10:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by HeavenlyAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to think.. how much do i like this guy? and would it be worth losing him and not knowing how this other relationship might turn out.. i think you should get to know this friend a little bit more before you decide. as for your current relationship.. think of new things to do that neither of you have tried..maybe take some time away from each other, only see each other like once every week or two weeks.. when you are away from someone for that long, you realize how much you like being with them, or really how bored you are.. just go with the flow..
2007-02-14 10:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.contreras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that ur always going to find someone else u may find attractive, or interesting. the question is, is he worth breaking off a relationship for?
i had a similar situation.. i have a bf for the past year, and things are pretty good.. but sometimes there are things that i don't like about him, and i end up feeling maybe i can find someone better. each time we argue, we end up making up and being stronger than before. however, during that time there was a guy that i actually was interested in BEFORE i started going out w/ my bf. that guy is always around, and i found myself wondering what it would've been like to date him....
then i realized, that i'm not guaranteed a relationship w/ that guy..but w/ my guy, i love him and i am happy w/ him, and that i trust that he loves me, and that we can work out problems.... long story short, it wasn't worth it to dump my boyfriend for a question mark.
find out what u want, what is important to you, and u will have to make a decision. good luck~
2007-02-14 10:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me this way. U been stuck with the same man all this time and another guy shows interest inyou, you are really happy about that and wanna take that other guy since it someone "new".. well if you decide togo with himthen I gaurantee a few months down the road this will happen again "that you feel bored".. I think its just because another man shows interest in you hun so go with your heart.
2007-02-14 10:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe there should ever be a time when u r bored in a relationship. To me that means u and that person should not be together if u r bored wid each other. Just save yourself time and pain and break it off.
2007-02-14 10:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrl!!
old wiose proverb.. but even truer today..
It's good until it's not good anymore then you move on!!
if the fire has died.. it'll never work out..so?? what are you doing in a relationship.. and giving(or not) your body to some guy you are bored with...sinner!
!I'm telling mom!!..J/K
GO and find someone who keeps your heart beating all the time who loves and repsects and can;t look forward to seeing eveysingle time!!!... now grab your jacket and go.... "
TO the MALL...4 a new BF!! whooooo hooooo!!!!
good luck! happy V-day!*wink
2007-02-14 10:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Derrick Zooolander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard to answer without knowing how old you are. If you're young, it's probably best to not be tied down to one person - you have time enough for that later.
2007-02-14 10:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are bored then time to move on to next
2007-02-14 10:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by west 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋