he's always treated me really well.always been kind,and always been telling me how much he loves me,doing sweet things for me and buying me the nicest presents.But nine months on,the other night,he snapped,and started swearing and shouting at me and my friend.He was angry at me because the night before,he had really upset me,and i was so upset i didnt feel like going to see him,and he was annoyed at me because of this.After being mean to me,he took to his fingers with a penknife and is wearing a bandage.Today he cried in school.He then said that he loves me more than anything,he is really sorry,i'm his other half etc. and he wants to try and stop being such an angry person but doesnt know how.I mean,the incident is so out of character.I'm scared of what he would do if we fell out again or if i ever left him =s
2007-02-14 10:44:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, babe. Run away fast. This guy sounds emotionally unstable. Tell him you want to be "just friends" for a while and let him work it out by himself.
2007-02-14 10:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Tom K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is suffering from some violent mood swings. I imagine you are in high school, and this can be the time in a person's life when depression can show up. Sometimes there are causes, sometimes it's chemical. Whatever the reason, your boyfriend needs to seek professional help from someone. He could even bring it up with his family doctor, who can refer him to someone. Whatever you do, don't ignore the situation. Talk with him about it. Let him know you want to help him. Please be careful. If he ever hurts himself or others again, call 911. Even if he gets angry, you might be saving him in the long run. Stay strong and understand his actions are probably not personal. Don't put yourself at risk with him either. If he won't get help and continues in this way, you may have to leave him to protect yourself. My ex husband had this problem. He is doing much better on medication. Also, do NOT blame yourself for his actions. It is not your fault if he hurts himself. The best thing you can do is try to get him help. My thoughts are with you.
2007-02-14 18:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by stephanie c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably really attached to you b/c he can't depend on anyone else in his life. He may have problems @ home, and might witness, or be a victim of, abuse. In this case, he might take it out on you the same way he knows others do. I say talk to a counsler @ school, and maybe break it off. Get out before he hurts you, and defend yourself no matter what. He probably thinks that anger and abuse is effective, and that's what he'll do... regardless if he says he loves you or not. If he ever swings at you or tries to hurt you, then he DOESN'T love you.
2007-02-14 18:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. first of all cutting himself is NOT a good sign.
second of all, he is scary because he is spontaneous, and cannot control his anger very well. that means that u won't see any warning signs, u won't know how to handle the situation, and u may be in danger..! and HE may be a danger to himself.. perhaps u can suggest going to a counselor for anger management, and if he needs u, u will go with him.
if he doesn't see it as a problem or doesn't understand that he is scaring you, be careful. a man is only as good as his ability to change for the better....even if he makes mistakes now, it's ok, as long as he can work it out w/ you and learn. if he is unwilling, then nothing u can do will help him.
2007-02-14 18:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. He sounds very unstable. I think you need to stay away from him. It wouldn't surprise me if he turned that anger on you someday.
A friend of mine once had a guy threaten suicide if she wouldn't date him. It was a sick way to manipulate her. Please don't let him do this to you. If you really believe he will hurt himself, go to your school counselor. He/she will be able to direct him to get some help.
2007-02-14 18:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really ask him to go to counseling.. He was holding all his anger in for 9 months and once he upset you it had to come out..
2007-02-14 18:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you love him but that's crazy!! Your man might end up hurting you and its not worth it. Trust me... I thought he did it because he loved me then I realized my man had hella problems and one day he might actually hurt me, no joke, He did.... its not worth it, now I have a restraining order on the crazy ex! Be careful!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-14 18:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say he's been changing since the last nine months, maybe he started drinking or doing drugs.
2007-02-14 18:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and tell him to got to anger management if that doesn't work just brake up with him
2007-02-14 18:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by diana r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a kook - RUN AWAY!
2007-02-14 18:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by mike Z 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋