He still loves me and I still love him, but he really needs to grow up, we have a baby on the way. I want my son to have both parents in the picture, but I don't know if the fact that I love him is enough to give another chance. He has cheated b4 and now all of a sudden he says he will never lie again, I really love him but I don't want to be the same fool twice.
2007-02-14 10:41:40 · 13 answers · asked by farealforever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you voice that "I don't know if the fact that I love him is enough to give another chance" says just that... you "don't... love him is enough to give another chance."
I know I've been in similar boat minus the "baby on the way."
So follow you gut instinct and do what it says.
A child will need a father and mother, but at the expense of what??? values you are going to instill in the child... that it is better to hold on to a safe choice or an honest but hard decision. It is better to raise a child alone, with love than with a liar and a cheater. Is that how you want the child to grow into? to see you heart aches and hurting. Now that;s a LOT of guilt for a kid to grow up in. Children can sense a lot of things.
People don't change that much. It is a man's action that speaks truer louder than his words, which isn't much to nothing. I don't know your significant other, but I know men.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 11:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by ntk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always believe if it doesnt work the first time then why would it work again, but your situation is different then most with a baby on the way. Why dont you two become friends again, go out on little dates ya know? Talk a lot more over dinner, kind of get to know each other again, and make sure he does not go and see another women and cheat again. Tell him he needs to rebuild the trust he has lost from you. Tell him since the two of you are having this beautiful baby TOGETHER, that he needs to grow up now, and also tell him if he screws up one more time, then that is it, and show that you mean it. Otherwise he'll think your all talk. Well goodluck and congrats on the baby!
2007-02-14 10:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love alone is not enough. You have to be able to trust him, be real - it he's been cheating and lying before, what is it worth that he promise not to lie again?
From only the words you write I'd say the odds are against you that this will work. It's more likely that you'll meet a man that deserves you - it could happen sooner than you think.
2007-02-14 11:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by yomaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him another chance, but dont be foolish--if you see something happening get out! It's ideal to have both parents but you also want your son to know how to be a man and respect women, if his father is always running around on his mom and she accepts it then that's all he will know. He could be a good father without being your man. But i would say if you still love each other and he's willing to try, give it a chance....good luck! and congrats on the baby!
2007-02-14 10:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by Staying Quiet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe once a cheater always a cheater. If he knew he can get away with it the 1st time, what makes him think he can't get away with it the 2ND time. You need to be up front with him before the baby comes and tell him that if he even thinks about cheating that will be the 1st and last time he will see you and the baby. At times it works to your advantage if you threat him about you will no longer see your son. I strongly suggest do it before the baby comes.
2007-02-14 10:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by imjulissandur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 11:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart and you'll make the right choice. Don't stay with him b/c you have a child on the way. You can both be in the childs life even if you two can't be together. Good luck.
2007-02-14 10:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser and you need to understand that. Unfortunately now you have his kid so you're stuck with him for the next 18 years. Try to make the best of it.
2007-02-14 10:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck, if he knew you had a baby on the way but still cheated on you, most likely he will cheat on you again. it's a hard decision, raising a kid on your own is hard, so good luck
2007-02-14 10:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ippo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea give him a chance
2007-02-14 10:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Shane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋