i have been self harming since i was five im 23 now and still do it wen something bad happens is there any...?

Question

way to stop it. ive been to my doctors and seen councelors and quacks but nothing seams to help.
plz help
p.s soz about spelling

this isnt a laughing matter or a joke. so plz dont say stupid things

my motivation is in my question (wen bad things happening or wen i really upset

Answer 1

my partner has self harmed since the age of 7 ...its a coping mechanism and youll stop when u feel ready..i hope its soon tho as the scars can be terrible...when u feel the urge the are things u can do ..ice is good as is red ice cubes..youll no why..but ultimately..you need some1 to talk to when u feel a trigger coming on..if u need to talk email me!!.ive never felt the urge to ask some1 to email me ..but you are not alone..lots of people do it..and there is help out there ..if yr ready to accept it!!!

Answer 2

1st
You are obviously a rational thinking person even though you do this. How can I say this? Because you recognize that you have a problem and you are seeking help for it. Your condition is no different than a broken leg. You know it's a problem and you go to get it taken care of.

2nd Being this rational thinking person you must also realize that when you do this the initial problem is still there! So now you have two problems... That is where you need to change this. You must tell yourself this. (No matter what happens in life, hurting myself won't change it.)

3rd
Find some one you can call 24-7. If you have a problem and then you want to hurt yourself, call that person. Talk to that person and realize hurting yourself won't help.
Then go deal with the problem and get through it.

:O)
Jerry

Answer 3

You just have to find different ways of getting the relief you feel when you harm. do you do it because it hurts or u like blood or sumthin else? If you e-mail me then I can try to help you. Self Harm is one of those things that stick with you forever and ya can never stop it fully but it can get easier if you let it. Its good that you have identified what triggers it because now you have something to work on.

Oh and can I also say that unless you're a strong person and can take critisism then I wouldnt post things on the internet about self harm because people have so many hurtful views that could trigger your self harm.

I dont know if my e-mail address is visible but i dont mind so here it is just incase [e-mail]

Answer 4

Have you been prescribed any antidepressants or any anti-anxiety medications? Have you been able to fully deal with why you do this? I feel you first must understand the behaviour, accept yourself, and then forgive yourself for doing it. Also you must deal with whatever traumatic event that has lead you to this type of behaviour. This is a behaviour problem and cutting yourself is your way of telling you that your no good and deserve to be punished. At some point in your young life you have blamed yourself for what happend and you keep punishing yourself in order to forget this event. When you feel like hurting yourself take a moment and think about something positive or something funny. Sometimes when I am truly stressed and upset I think about something funny that happened or was said.
My coworkers look at me crazy when I laugh. This helps me take the focus off the stressful situation. I know this sounds corny but it truly works:)

Answer 5

I'm sorry about your problem, I don't really know what you could do. I'm sure you have been told all these things but anyway.

Have you thought about joining a self harm support group perhaps online?
As long as you realise you are not on your own.
Lots of people have self harmed and managed to stop.

Try and solve the problem which it might stem from.
Get a new coping strategy, so when things crop up you do something else instead. Listen to Meditation tapes etc

Maybe you could divert your attention to painting or yoga, engrosse yourself in another activity. Maybe meet new people

Sorry I can't be of any help.

Answer 6

I do the same thing and always have. I go through long periods where everything is ok..then out of the blue I wont be able to cope with problems anymore.
Reading up on self-harm also helps you and those around you understand your problem.
You're not trying to kill yourself, etc. You just have no other options at the time for taking the pain away.
Just try to continue going to therapy. It always helps me.

Answer 7

Well Bill said they wrote Don't jump for the fans,Cause a lot of people were sending them letters about their music helping them get through depression and what not, so they decided to make a song about suicide which explains Don't jump. Not sure about on the Edge though. They could have went through that stuff when they got bullied in their last days of school.. but who knows? i personally don't think Bill has ever cut himself.

Answer 8

i used to self-harm, or more specifically cut, and my docters told me that cutting is related to anorexia, and bulimia. they said that people do it when they feel that they have no control over anything in their life, and they do it to regain a sense of contol. when i look back that is exactly what it was, but back when it was still an issue it really helped when i wrote. i wrote poems, stories and how i was feeling. I really hope that works for you, good luck!

P.S. many other cutters i know were sexually abused as children, if thats the case maybe it would help to try to see a doctor again, or someone who can at least help you to sort through what your feeling, or any underlying issues that may have occured in your life...

Answer 9

I've been there, I know exactly what you're going through. Try to aviod possibly upsetting situations at all costs. Go out for a night on the town with friends, or family. Call a trusted friend or someone you care about that you know cares about you too, ASAP anytime you feel like hurting yourself. Or hey, you could even talk to me. :)

Answer 10

I've done it myself, many years ago. I have since discovered, in my own case, that I was constantly, though without perception to myself, that I was blaming me for everything that went wrong. Once I realised that the world doesn't rest on my shoulders alone, I suddenly started to blame evrybody else. This was no better. I started getting into fights because, frankly,I had become obnoxious to other people.
The only way I can attempt to answer your problem is to say, humanity is one big team. We all share the blame when it goes wrong and the credit when it goes right.
Hope you find some solace in this message.

Answer 11

The best thing to do is write everything down that you think, feel, or want to say. Keep a journal of it. Write down every bad thing that has ever happened in your life. Keep a journal of it.

Go over your journal regularly. Hours, days, minutes after you write in it. If what you are writing is gibberish or doesn't make sense to you then destroy it. Burn it, shred it, or rip it to pieces.

Then, start over. Write every emotion you possibly can in a new Journal. Keep writing until your hand hurts and you feel the tension start to drain away.

Repeat as necessary. You should see an improvement in your condition shortly after starting this process.........

If not, divert your attention to doing something that is beneficial to your life and well being, like making a nutritious sandwich, or exercise. Then try journaling again.

You should notice an improvement, just keep trying.

Hope this wasn't too long......