how can i make sex last longer?

Question

without viagra's help, can anybody tell me how to last in bed? because usually im not done when my bf is.. i want it to last more than 7 mins.. please help.. i want it to be LONG and good but it never has past seven min.. when he is done, i have to finish myself.. i dont want to.. please help..

Answer 1

More foreplay, or more boyfriends, have you considered multiple partners? ♥♥♥

Answer 2

Typical question for women, but a good one. Fact is, even if a Male takes Viagra, it does not make him last longer before he orgasms. Just keeps the erection. The sensation is the same without prolonging excitement. Most men loose there sexual drive immediately after orgasm, while females continue. More foreplay participation from him may be an answer depending on your arousal. Most men do not take the time to commit to foreplay before intercourse, though they make sure they receive it. Unfair! If he is concerned about this, have him follow the footsteps of the porn star industries male patterns. Masturbation a bit before playtime. This will prolong him from finishing to quickly, and his arousal will be less quick to fire. Do this daily for about 2 weeks, and it should become a habit as he learns not to release to early. Also, don't let it hurt your feelings too much, he is obviously completely turned on by you and the sensation of being together.

Answer 3

Oh boy, I wish I didn't have experience on this one! You can try talking to him about it. There are exercises he can do to try to concentrate on baseball and stuff so he lasts longer. My guy never found that to work very well.

The other thing is products like "man-delay" which is supposed to make them a little numb. That never seems to work too good either.

You can coax him to do a lot of prep-work on you first. (oral sex) to get you close before you let him have penetration. That will bring you closer to his level.

The best thing seems to be to take the top position. If you are on top, you have more control. Plus if they are not flexing their hips, they usually can last longer. Have him tell you if he is getting close...so you can stop moving for a moment.

I finally gave it up and got a vibrator, which we use during intercourse together. That way I catch up and we are more likely to go at the same time. Their are some great ones that come on a little ring that you can slip over his penis. It has a little "bullet" vibrator on the ring. Does wonders for you, doesn't affect him. He was a little resistant at first, like it made him less of a man. Once he got used to, he really likes it. He said he doesn't feel guilty anymore that he goes more quickly, because it's not an issue! And to be honest...these things are INCREDIBLE!

Answer 4

Don't even let him start until you have fooled around for at least 15 minutes. Use a clock or timer if you need to (not very romantic but 20 seconds can feel like 5 minutes to a guy).

After that the stop start method is the best. When he feels even a little bit close FREEZE! and talk or kiss until he feels better. Also certain positions will give him more control and just the act of changing positions helps. Good luck.

Answer 5

Oh H*ll No! Why do you have to finish yourself? He don't even have the decency to finsih you with his finger, tongue, toy? Girl it is time to cut him off. Let him know you have put up with him being a selfish lover for as long as you can and you are beginning to resent him and the relationship. So you need him to do whatever it takes to make sure you *** before he does. Now why is it that you know exactly how long is takes? Make sure your mind is living in the moment. And make sure you have him give you lots of fourplay (almost to the point of you having the big O ) before him even gets to stick it inside. Matter of a fact give him a taste of his own medicine for a week or so. Have him get you off with his finger or toy or tongue and then tell him you are done and will let him get some later. Make him masterbate to get his. And do this for about a week. Then sit back down with him and talk to him about how it makes you feel unworthy and unloved when he just does his thing and goes to sleep. Then after you begin to give it to him again. Make sure you make him hold off from cumming about 5 times before you let him have his big O. Good Luck to you!

Answer 6

This is funny, I found baby orjel in my moms bedroom a few years ago and asked her if she had a tooth ache. She replied; "no, your father has a pre-E problem, we use it to keep him from finishing too soon." EEEEK! Too much info for my ears!!! But hey, here I am passing it to you...so I hope this helps! PS my mom is a RN, might wanna dab a little on the inside of his thigh to be sure he's not allergic to it first. lol wink

Answer 7

The 7 minutes is that intercourse only or it includes foreplay?
Foreplay helps a lot during foreplay you can have many orgasms.
Does he only wants to have sex or does he enjoys making love and pleasing you.
Learn to play and please his body as much as you can, massage his entire body, kiss his body and do anything you can to keep him erect. Believe me if you keep him erect for an hour he will be so happy that learn how to control him self and stay longer during the intercourse.

Answer 8

One, if you aren't using condoms, they may help a little. Two, there are desensitizing creams that can help, but they may cause an allergic reaction. The best thing to do would be to talk to your boyfriend and explain how you feel. Sometimes it just takes a little willpower and he should be considerate of your happiness as well as his own.

Answer 9

There's no easy answer.

The SECOND round of sex that night might be a lot better.

Or find ways to enjoy slightly different sexual activities.

In most areas of life, being fast and intense in one's physical actions is a GOOD thing. It can be tough to change that dynamic just for sexual intercourse.

Well, there are certain devices in the area of sex toys that you can maybe bribe him to use ...

Answer 10

I've found that as long as its GOOD, it doesn't matter how long it lasts. A lot of foreplay helps too. With a former boyfriend who didn't last long, I found that if he performed oral on me (until I was just close to the point of no return) before we had intercourse, at least I was able to climax during intercourse.

Answer 11

My man used to have the same problem, but now I get him to go down on me first to get me to a point that I can not go any longer with out an orgasm. We then have sex and he stops when he feels like he is going to *** and plays with me for a while. We can have sex for about an hour. it is the best sex that I have ever had.