I have been dating a guy for six months. At the beginning we had a great time. We did all of the things together that I have enjoyed doing since I was a teenager..car shows, motorcycle riding, rock concerts, etc. I was just getting out of a 4 year relationship when I met this new guy.. I feel like I am being smothered. I have tried to back peddle in the relationship but now he claims to be in love with me and wants us to begin working toward marriage. I don't want any of this and wish we could "go back" to the first 3 months of the relationship and not be so serious. I don't think this is possible but now I have a love sick puppy on my hands and don't want to hurt his feelings. It has come to the point where I am trying to avoid him..which causes more problems.
2007-02-14 10:17:49 · 12 answers · asked by coopta85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel smothered and want out than tell him to back off give you a break take a break from the relationship dont avoid him it only makes matters worse. Its always better to forward about everything than to avoid it. If he doesnt like what you tell him...about being smothered and want to take a break than break it off with him he really doesnt love you any guy that says he loves a woman if he loves her than he would respect what she wants to do. good luck.
2007-02-14 10:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Momof4beautifulGirls! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to do this ... is just do it. Feelings are going to be hurt no matter what, unfortunately. You will be glad you did (no more feeling guilty by avoiding him, annoyed when he calls/comes over). And he will survive.
I went through this same thing a few years back, and what a huge relief when I finally told him it wasn't working. You have every right to make this decision for your own peace of mind.
Bite the bullet and get it done (Good luck, sister)!
2007-02-14 10:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never feel guilty about that. Your feelings are the ones that matter and your head always knows what's best for your heart. It's your love life and if you don't like it, switch it up, or solve the issues with the person. And no more toying around at twenty, your mature enough to look for a real relationship now. And in my opinion, a "real" relationship isn't exactly 'a few weeks'.
2016-03-29 06:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best thing to do is to be honest and polite about it. Just tell him that it isn't working out with him anymore. If he asks why, just say it is not what you were looking for and things are moving too fast. Throw in that reason that you just don't feel the same for him.
On the long run, you are doing him a favor. You would be hurting him more if you spend a few years with him.
2007-02-14 10:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by s_p_u_d_n_i_k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and have a honest heart to heart conversation on the subject. It may seem difficult now, but it will only be harder to do later. Explain to him exactly how you feel and try to work out a compromise between the two of you. Let him know you still care about him, but that you need to take it slower. He should be able to understand and respect your feelings on the matter.
2007-02-14 10:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to tell him the truth that your not ready and explain to him you just got out of a long relationship and you are not ready to be committed to him. Let him know that if he can't understand that then he really don't love you and that it ain't going to work out and most likely you will not even be friends if he can't except the truth.
2007-02-14 10:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by elrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him. Telling him now. Prolonging it is like taking a ban-aid off slowly... ouch. He needs to start healing. And you need to be free from any guilt or unhappiness.
Good Luck
2007-02-14 10:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Golden Smile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just cut it off now, do not stay with him out of pitty. He deserves someone who will love him and care about him. You also deserve to be happy.
2007-02-14 10:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by MRS. O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best way. If he is a good man then he will understand... if he doesn't then you know you did the right thing.
2007-02-14 10:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and tell them the truth
2007-02-14 10:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋