How do I dat a guy who is 11 years older than me? He is 31. Somtimes I dont know what to tak about. I dont want to go on and on about makeup and hair and stupid petty things all the time and somtimes I get confused about what signals Im setting out. I know he likes me so thats not the question. the question is Im 20 and He is 31 so what signals should I be sending out? How do I send those signals out? and what should I be talking about and saying? He wants to know more about me how do I let him know more too?
2007-02-14 10:17:14 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can some men 31 and over answer this please?
2007-02-14 10:17:56 · update #1
Your best bet is to practice. I'm 31 so give me a holler and we'll do everything you ould imagine doing with him. That way you will be more comfortable.
2007-02-14 23:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Joshua L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy do research: watch the news, watch Sportscenter, ask him a lot of questions. Find out what he likes and dislikes. So when he conversing, you'll have something to say. Always know a little about anything. But if he likes you the way you are then don't change. Tell him your interests. What you wanna do in the future. But take your time in getting to know him and don't rush things.
2007-02-14 18:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by preppy624 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that most of the women I dated were a bunch older than me, and most of the rest were a bunch younger.
If he's interested in a much younger woman, part of the reason might be a bit of a dominance/power dynamic. Anyhow, the general idea would be to let him control the conversation most of the time, for example.
That doesn't mean you have to be a doormat. When you have something to say, say it! And insist on his attention if need be. But if it's just a question of entertaining him -- well, let him indicate how he likes to be entertained.
2007-02-14 18:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself..not someone you think he might want you to be. Tell him what your dreams are...the things you want to do and learn.
I have dated much younger woman and they all responded the same way..they wanted to learn something from an older man..to get the benefit of whatever wisdom he has and to feel safe and comfortable talking with him...and not deal with the immaturity that many younger men possess.
Of course some older men haven't grown up yet themselves so you just have to get a good one.
2007-02-14 18:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by michael r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself ... I dated a guy 13 years older than me when I was 24. He was a wonderful person, however now that I'm 34 I wonder sometimes what the heck he was doing with such a young girl. I think he had a lot of insecurities and was dating me because not only did I make him look good to his friends ... I think he enjoyed teaching me what he knew. It was a lot of things. My advice to you is just enjoy yourself but be aware of him trying to control you. Good luck and have fun!
2007-02-14 18:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Shiva A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, you don't have to analyze your signals. Talk about whatever comes up naturally. When he wants to know more about you, ask him in which area would he like to more about? A more specific question will enable you to focus on a more specific answer. Relax, just be open and honest, everything will fall into place.
2007-02-14 18:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got some generational experience ahead of you but don't complicate the simplistic. When someone likes you they're accepting your genuity as a person nothing more. Take the time and learn from him and he things he likes. Just be open to learn.
2007-02-14 18:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am not your man, but I have dated nothing but older men my whole dating life.
I have done it because no one my age ever had intelligent conversation to make, didn't know their way around a wine list, and could not show me the finer things in life. I have always loved age, intelligence, sophistication, experience, and gray hair.
Maybe you need to stop forcing it.
2007-02-14 18:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋