I was recently dumped because my gf and I had an argument about 9/11 and how our government is run. Futhermore she stated that my views on America in general were too "unpatriotic" and that she had made a vow to never be with someone unpatriotic. Whats worse is that she says that I was "the love of her life." Would you dump the "love of your life" over something as stupid as a political argument?
2007-02-14 10:07:44 · 29 answers · asked by DigitalPoet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course not. There are other, deeper issues about why she is breaking up with you. The opposing views on politics probably mirror opposing views on a lot of other things or even the way in which you two communicate with each other. This was a rather convenient way for her to tell you that you two aren't truly compatible; yet allow her this one. You probably do not want to know the true reasons why she is dumping you, and she may or may not be able or ready to tell you, so trying to get to the bottom of it could cause even more problems ...
2007-02-14 10:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! My boyfriend and I have VERY different political views. As long as you can find a way to compromise when those views affect your personal lives. IE- Abortion, religion, education issues...etc. If she can break up THAT easily then she cannot be right about saying that she loves you that much...because she would have tried to make it work or compromise. You will find someone out there who shares your views or is open minded about at least understanding your positions. This looks like a sign that she was not too open minded, which could wind up being an issue in general affairs. Some things happen for the best but if it was meant to be or if she cares enough to compromise and accept you....she will be back. Good Luck!
2007-02-14 18:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how heated the argument got really. I've met people who got SO ANGRY (usually republicans - no offense to anyone -- I just happen to be an Independent). BUT these arguments can get really ugly. I don't see how you can be in a relationship without political talk coming up every so often especially right now. These fights can be extremely stressful and possibly not worth it. I might break it off too. I don't like to "fight."
2007-02-14 18:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If politics crosses the line into ethics than yes I would.
For example, if my gf became a homophobe or started eating meat it would be over.
If it is purely political, then no. Having a different opinion of how the government should be/is run would not be a reason to break up. If you want to date someone who is exactly like you then you might as well be alone.
2007-02-14 18:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by Vegan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its one thing to have opposing views, but respect and accept that people are different. However, calling the "love of your life" unpatriotic is pretty harsh and ridiculous. Honestly, I don't think I could be with someone long term who disagreed to the point of insult.
2007-02-14 18:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by tustudent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say political standings for alot of people are a very big thing. I won't even date a guy who is that different from my beliefs. Why bother? The arguments will be waiting to happen. Even if you think that would not happen to you... if the other person is that extreme, it's not worth it.
She's done you a favor.
2007-02-14 18:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Helen A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that its not as much THAT you disagree, but HOW you disagree. I personally think that it is boring to constantly be around someone who agrees with everything you believe and think. Yes, its easy, but its not stimulating (in my opinion). I think good relationships need some disagreement, it can be passionate. The key is being able to disagree respectfully. Its important to be able to admit that you disagree with someone, but it doesn't mean either one of you is right or wrong. It doesn't sound like she really dumped you over the actual argument, but rather a difference in opinion that she can't or isn't willing to compromise on.
2007-02-14 18:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by gmug9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if you agree that the US deserved what they got on 9/11 then of course i would dump you but if it was something else that was dumb then probably not. Politics is very complicated and very controversial and there are lots of ways to start arguements when it comes to politics.
Is it possible that she wasn't in to you anymore and just needed a way out and this arguement was her way out?
2007-02-14 18:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. i think it's ridiculous. politics and religion are two topics that are hard to understand, to have a descent conversation about and end up agreeing on. my ex and i thought opposites when it came to politics. he is your typical capitalist-republican-right winged-patriotic man while on the other hand, i consider myself a 100% leftist. our relationship didnt end b/c of a political argument, but i believe that if you love a person sooo much no matter what and he's/she's the "love of your life" then you should stay with that person no matter what. it can be worked out
2007-02-14 18:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by Elo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I disagree on political views...but we respect each other's views. We simply state our case and point. We keep an open mind and we don't argue who is right because neither of us is right...Your girlfriend must be very controling. Good you go out before you got too far into it. It doesn't matter who is right, stand up for what you believe and don't let some nazi ***** tell you any different!
2007-02-14 18:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Violation Notice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋