do you think that people who are mean and hurt others have it come back on thier in suffering (karma) or?

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do they get away with it. It seems the awful people have great lives and the nice ones often have awful lives.

My mom has been extrememly mean to me and others and has had a hard life. I am wondering it there is a connection. But then again so have I had a lot of bad things but am much kinder.

If they are saved, do they get away with the many wrongs they have done in not loving others and hurting them or does God teach them lessons in suffering or undergoing siomilar things that they did to others..in other words if they went off free eternally, do they still suffer in this life on earth or are some people off scott free. I need to know this as I have been devastated at her hands and other relatives and am feeling angry and wondering f life is just unjust and then the next life is gret if they are saved.

it seems unfair..when it involves some things, one can better understand no justivce but when it violates the law of love isn't that worth some payback..at the hands of destiny.

born again moula--good point about space and distance. Maybe it makes the heart grown fonder. One christmas when my sister and I were both treated like crap..she said never again and stopped going to all family fuinctions but one wedding in several years. IO continued subjecting myself to several family members abuse. Shw just went to a funeral last week and was treated nicely..I, on the other hand, overheard mean comments about me and found out a total of 4 family members said some really cruel things that made me gon nuts for two days..no sleep angry. crying, never wanting to see them again, even considered not going to my mom's funeral (except between showings) so as not to see them..called suicide prevention 4 times in 2 days and then each talked to me 2 hours so 8 hours tring to deal with their abuse plus...(not suicidal just highly upset..so who was the samrt one..her unforgiving and self protective or me forgiving or civil at least but devastated..I am starting to think she

was the smart one and I was not and considering putting my own feeling first as they sure don't so your gf may have kind of tapped into that principle.

moiase..that is a good point..often what looks great from the outside isn;t always.true

moiase..that is a good point..often what looks great from the outside isn;t always.true (january runner up)..thanks for the opinions and two of the posters please see my comments to you above best answer..thanks all

Answer 1

I believe in karma, I think if you are a vicious, spiteful person who causes others a lot of suffering, sooner or later you will get your come-uppance.

Answer 2

No one will get away with anything. I used to hold a lot of anger towards people that hurt me in the past, and then I realised that God will judge us all accordingly. We can't judge others, their "book" is different than ours, under different circumstances. Don't worry about other people and how they are being judged, some will get what's coming to them in this life and some will get an ultimate punishment on Judgement Day. God knows what he is doing, Fear him and know he has a reason for everything.

If we truly feel sorry for something and we ask Gods forgivness he will grant us that. But if someone is constantly hurting others and doesn't care, they will be punished. God will be Merciful to those who Believe in him, fear him and pray to him.

My favourite saying is "Forgive, but never forget." If you hold on to anger you will destroy yourself, and only yourself. If God can forgive us then we can forgive others...."Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner."

God knows all, and every good deed you do is recorded in your "book" that will be read on Judgement Day. As well as every bad deed. Don't give up and compare yourself to others. Live your life, being kind and helping others. Good things will happen to you.

Answer 3

From a Buddhist perspective, when you sow karmic seeds from causing suffering and harm, or wishing suffering and harm on others with an incorrect view, then you will reap karmic results that are greater than the seed sown.

Correct view is understanding that all things, including people's behavior, arises due to causes and conditions, and nobody is ever inherently anything, not "bad" or "good" and it's incorrect view to label anybody as such. It's also incorrect view to assume we know a person's intent and then judge them based on what WE perceive their behavior or actions as.

There could be a connection that someone in a past life, who has treated others harshly can be reborn into a life where they are treated more harshly... however without correct view one cannot end the cycle of samsara and suffering. For you to be feeling angry at her for her treatment of you (and I'm not judging, just offering a view for you to chew over) is simply your not understanding of the causes and conditions... what MIGHT help you is if you could learn how to cultivate a calmer mind that understands her circumstances with compassion in such a way that you won't feel hurt by any "mental' or "emotional" problems you perceive her dealing out to you.

Many of the things we perceive as "unjust" or "devastating" are simply our own mental projections, or their attacking our sense of self-cherishment. Consider this... it's far easier to put leather on the soles of your feet to keep them from getting cut up than to leather the entire Earth. Train your mind to understand, gain wisdom and develop altruism and you will find happiness. You don't have to become Buddhist to benefit from the Buddha's teachings on suffering and how to cultivate a calmer mind about it.

While I'm Buddhist, I've seen many who choose to remain Catholic or otherwise and still gain from the teachings... and trust me, it helped me with my anger issues about my childhood and perceptions thereof.

May you find happiness and the cause of happiness and freedom from suffering and the cause of suffering.

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Answer 4

I don't believe in karma. Explain how child slavery fits into a world view where there is karma.

I once dated a girl whose mother treated her like crap. Her mother always made some claim about karma which I thought was just an excuse to let herself off the hook.

It wasn't until my gf moved far away and put some space there that her mother began to treat her with respect. I'm not saying this is completely applicable in your case - but it is just food for thought.

Answer 5

In addition to other good answers here, I would point out something. I had not realized until I started my own family tree, that ones own current last name is a very small part of the family tree. It branches very quick, and you only have your fathers last name, and that is by cultural tradition. We tend to identify strongly with it, because it is our written name, but what about your mothers maiden name- just as much your heritage. The list of last names grows quick the number doubles every generation back: by your great great grandparents you have 16 family last names, 16 different families and back grounds. I have not traced my own last name back farther than 1827, but other lines I have going back hundreds of years earlier. I strongly recommend getting information from your living relatives. The most important generations to me on my tree are the most recent ones including the living ones- its about who I am, before that, its all just interesting history... So, a little different answer to your question, even if your Razo ancestors came from the same place, you would only know a tiny fraction of where "your" ancestors came from.

Answer 6

Oh I believe in karma 100%. I video taped a girl stealing money from my cash box and the police would do nothing about it (the cops here are lazy fools). I just learned the other day that she stepped off the curb and was hit by a car and it broke her arm, leg and some ribs.

God I love karma!

Answer 7

People generally dig their own graves, if someone is living there life in a bad way chances are it's not going to get better for them.

Answer 8

It comes back to them. You reap what you sew. Just because their lives look wonderful to you doesn't mean they actually are wonderful.

Answer 9

they won't be saved, and you won't be saved either, there is no afterlife, so please, live your life to the fullest, if she is mean and evil, she will have less friends and more enermy in this lifetime, so let her take care of her life and move on with your own, coz there is no afterlife

Answer 10

Wait a sec...I gotta go get my violin... such a sad story... ;-)

You're asking, "If people are mean to me...will I get my revenge on them at some point?"

The answer: Nope. Forgive and forget.