I need help with my girlfriend?

Question

I don't know how to approach this problem of mine. I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 1/2 months, and I still can't seem to relax around her SOMETIMES. It is very strange. Most of the time, I don't know how to make conversation with her. I feel socially inept and insecure. I have basically no friends and I'm very introveted, so I don't have much of a life outside of my full time job and college courses. The thing about my gf is that a couple of weeks ago she said she loved me, and I could tell she meant it. She has a four year old daughter. I notice that my gf is more introverted and laughs less around me than others. I sometimes think that I bring her down. I also think that she is settling sometimes. You see, she has cerebral palsy, and I do things to help her out. I sometimes think that she might love me for the things I do rather than for me. She doesn't take advantage of me, and she is very independent. I just don't know what to make of our relationship. Advice

I've talked to her about this issue and she says that she is happy and that I don't bore her. I WON'T BRING THIS UP TO HER AGAIN. Sometimes, we sit in total silence. I hate that I can't be the man I know that I'm capable of. Like I said, there are times when I feel a surge of energy, and I can be funny, charming, etc, but those moments are far and few between. Also, I'm not that masculine: I can't fix things around the house very well and I'm not very assertive. I question what woman would want a man like me....HELP??

Answer 1

When you can feel comfortable with yourself then you can be comfortable with another human being. And not until then. Work on dealing with your own insecurity issues first. I'm not saying to dump her...but...you need to work on how you feel about yourself.

Answer 2

When you have confidence in your self, others will see that. BUT only you can make you happy. No one else can do that for you. Until you realize this you cant move forward with the man you say you wish to be. If you are doing then you are being. So read and learn about what type of person you want to be and well, be it. :) Silence is not a bad thing. Perhaps reading up on something she has interests in or asking her a closed (or is it open? I get those two confused. LOL) type of question, which would kind of "force" her to answer the question with just a yes or no answer and would help with your conversations.

But always be the person who you are and learn from your experiences. :)

Good Luck!

Answer 3

just stand in a large crown of people and act as tho they are you friends. if you are noticed walk away slowley and play hopscoth whilst wearing a dress