Should intelligent, successful single women downplay their intelligence in order to attract men?

Question

It seems to me that some men are threaten by an intelligent woman. They say they are looking for someone with intelligence, but seem to actually mean, someone who constantly agrees with their opinion and/or demonstrate blind adoration.

Answer 1

No, they should not.

If a man would fall for that trick, then the relationship would be based on dishonesty and ultimately would fail.

Be yourself and shine.

Answer 2

"It seems to me that some men are threaten by an intelligent woman" ..... yeah, and those men are the ones you want to weed out because they are clearly not a good match for you!

In fact the REAL men (like my own honey) think less of women who downplay their intelligence, creativity, success etc for the sake of attracting a man. Real men are not threatened by strong smart women, they appreciate and admire us and treat us as equals, which makes a great foundation for any relationship.

Then again it depends on what you're looking for. If you're just out to go have some fun, then by all means play dumb and get laid. But if you want a meaningful relationship, don't go hiding the best parts of yourself!

Answer 3

NEVER-EVER downplay your intelligence to attract a man. Any man worthy of you will be attracted to you and like you for you and your intelligence and will not find this threatening. I know men that indeed find intelligence a turn-on. Don't settle for less girl! You deserve the best! ;)

Answer 4

No!!

You won't be happy with the men you attract that way. Look for the sadly rare exceptions to the general rule. Really important criteria for partners includes ability to communicate and shared values, and intelligence (and appreciation for intelligence) are pretty central to that.

HOWEVER, intelligence does not imply that you be arrogant or domineering. "I think you're wrong but I'll submit to your preference anyway" can be very appealing to a man.

Answer 5

Never play it down. I tell my daughter that all the time. Do you really want to start a relationship by lying about who you are? If they can't accept you for who you are, then they deffinately aren't the one you want to be with anyways. Don't worry, once you give up and stop looking you will find the right person, that is just how it works out LOL.

Answer 6

No, contrary to what many women believe, most men prefer intelligent women. Be yourself. If you're smart, be smart.

If, in the past, you've found the men you date tend to like their women to be simpletons, consider changing the type of guys you go out with.

Answer 7

A man that's threatened by a girl's intelligence has got to be dumb, especially since there's a huge shortage of them.

Answer 8

You're right, few men look for rocket scientists in women. Guys don't really want dumb girls, but dumb girls are usually easily satisfied and agreeable.

Take those traits and make the best out of em. In the end, you both have to compromise some.

Answer 9

Naw, don't do that unless you really like playing dumb because you'll be trapped into doing it as long as he's around. There are guys who adore intelligent, successful women. Find one.

Answer 10

i don't think we should at all. if a man is threaten by our intelligence then that is not the kind of man we want to be with. we just have to be patient and the right man will come along that respects us for all our qualities

Answer 11

I look at it this way, once the infatuation has worn off, there has to be something else there to hold my interest. Personality and intelligence stand well beyond the initial attraction.