why am i acting this way? #2?

Question

I'm not a dude. i'm a girl. i'm 15. All my "friends" ditched me. my mom died last year. my dad died in 98. i'm living w/ my stepdad. so i have nowhere to go. he never listens to me. when i try to ask him about things like my anger, he yells at me and says it's just a phase. but my "friends" would tell me otherwise. i just don't know what to do. i was never this angry. i was always calm and conservative. i kept to myself. i didn't let things get to me. but now everything is eating away at me. i've been yelling at everyone even at school. people i don't talk to that much. i used to be quiet and never talk. i liked it that way. i play fh and run but w/ snow outside and not the right running clothes i can't run. is the other question a guy said i need to be a man. and i have no idea but it made me want to break the monitor. huiasf/ i just hate being angry. iu can't stand it. how can i make it stiop?

Answer 1

You've experienced quite a bit of emotional upheaval recently and you may be having difficulty dealing with your loss. Perhaps you're feeling less stable because of all the changes going on. That feeling can be scary and frustrating, especially if no one will listen or care about your feelings.

Do any of your friends or teachers know if one or more of your school counselors are good, non-judgmental listeners? If so, perhaps it's time to talk to one.

Explaining your feelings to someone who is willing to listen may not stop the feelings from occurring, but you'll probably understand them better and may find new and practical ways of dealing with them. Counselors are trained to help people navigate through tough times.

Once you're able to clearly see where your frustration and anger comes from, you might be able to find a more positive way to focus on them and turn them into beneficial solutions.

Take care. :)

Answer 2

You didn't care because you numbed yourself I'm sure.
For someone at the age of 15, you've gone through a hell of a lot. You're emotionally damaged and scarred. The two people that played a part in making you- you've lost. Now, you're living with someone who is sort of no one to you, and the sad part is- he doesn't care for you either. I'm sure he cares, but not as much as he should. He's not taking you seriously. He's obviously not a fit parent. I definitely know what it's like to be cared for by a step-parent. You're lashing out, because you currently don't know how to deal/handle/express your emotions. You're angry towards others, because you're angry inside and your mind and body can't handle everything you previously bottled, so now it's going out. You can make it stop by expressing your anger in a different way. The best thing to do, is to try to understand what has happened in your life, and accept what has happened, and then you'll be less angry. You have every right to be angry and/or sad, but just don't stay that way because it won't help you- it'll only ruin you, and you don't want that. Instead of yelling at people.... punch your pillow, cry it out, scream into your pillow... like scream real good and hard... you'll feel awkward but it works... Or..... use that negative energy and emotion, and put it to work. Use it as a motivator to do good things for yourself. Just because you're an angry/unhappy person now, it doesn't mean you have to be angry forever.

Answer 3

You have been through alot it is very hard losing parents especially at your age, you have a right to be angry for awhile but you really need to talk your feelings out, perhaps a counselor that deals with death it has been a great change living with your stepdad around the clock he needs to put is listening ears on. I don't feel like you are going through a phase you have just been through alot, seek some counseling it really does help.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry about your parents...that really makes me think I have nothing to feel like you do for. Only one person in this world listens to me. I go to a small school in Iowa, and there are only 75 people in my class, so I don't know if you could do this if you go to a big school. I've been talking to one of my teachers. I never liked our guidance counselor, so I talk to my teacher. She helps me through all of this. It's definitely not going to be easy getting through this; it's definitely a pain in the butt. But if you can, find someone to talk to. Even if they don't completely understand, they will help you. That's what this teacher has done for me. She is my guardian angel.

Answer 5

You have had quite alot of bad things going on in your short life. Your stepdad is not someone you can talk to, is there anyone else? Maybe the school counselor or a counselor? Maybe just a good friend (I'm sure you have one even though you don't know it now).

Answer 6

hiya im 20 yrs old now but when i was about 13 14 yrs old i had alot of anger in me i used to punch brickwall (which really hurts lol) when i was really angry, so i got a punch bag and gloves and it did me really good when ever i was annoyed i used to beat into that the only prob is i know look like a bloke where it turned into a hobby and now have massive arms, just try and calm im not gonna tell you 2 count 2 10 coz that never works lol,
take care hun x x

Answer 7

Talk to a school counsellor or a teacher you trust. She can help you find a person to talk to that will help you settle all your anger. It's probably because your Mom and Dad died and you feel deserted by the people you loved the most....but - you should really talk to a professional who can help you deal with it all.

Answer 8

u just have to take a chill and be calm. why dont u go spend the weekend with ur friends. just to get away from all ur stress. or go to the gym and workout. u can put all ur stress into the machines it might make u feel better.