is my boyfreind cheating?

Question

my boyfreind of 5 years doesnt seem interested in me anymore he seems distant he keeps lying too when i went off sex he started chatting to other girls on the internet and he never did anything like that before hes a changed person hes not the person i fell in love with 5 years ago i just dont know whats going on but i cant keep carrying on like this i still live at home with my parents and i have a son and im 9 months pregnant my boyfreind is the dad to both of my children am i just being paranoid because im pregnant or has he fell out of love with me or is he chaeting any suggestions please help

Answer 1

Be careful with your emotions now since you are pregnant. Don't make any quick decisions without talking to him. If you do talk to him don't get overly emotional.

Answer 2

Being pregnant does make you more emotional something that may have bothered you a little bit now will most likely be the end of the world lol. As you know because this isn't your first pregnancy. I think you are just feeling a little insecure and you need to talk to your boyfriend 5yrs is a long time so you two should have a good enough relationship where you can sit with him and poor your heart out. See what he says maybe he has no idea your feeling this way. As for the chatting on line with other girls you should put a stop to that right away :) Hopefully everything works out ! I'm sure it will!

Answer 3

Sorry, I have to ask... Why if you have one child and another one on the way, are you still living at home with your folks? If the two of you are not in the position to be together in your own place, then why the hell are you having kids??? You are bringing children into a relationship that has no sign of commitment, and you may well now be paying the price as it looks like he doesn't even understand the concept of responsibility, and it takes two to tango. You should not have had kids without first figuring out if you had a life partner.

Answer 4

Oh my...I don't know if you're boyfriend is cheating or not, but you have some stuff you need to fix, that's for sure. First off, if you're not having sex with him he'll likely stray. I don't know why you would withhold sex from him, but stop. Whoops, you say you're nine mos. along...well, he should be understanding if you don't want to have sex when you're about to pop and if that's all it takes for him to stray then he's no good considering he helped put you in that position. Secondly, you need to start taking steps to gain independence from your parents. If you have a job, start looking for your own apartment. If you don't have a job, as soon as you can, start looking for one and then look for your own apartment. Then, give your man an option: he can do right by you by getting engaged or married, move in with you...or he can hit the road and that's when you file for child support. Even if you think you can't afford your own place, look into government support programs. If your boyfriend moves in with you (not into your parents house) I think it could also help the relationship because you'll have your own space to...well be a couple. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

He's just prob making hiself feel good by talking to other girls especially if you aren't having sex which he should be patient and more understanding.Another thing is sometimes men especially if they are young and you throw a couple of kids in the picture they start to think how are they going to provide is there ever going to be enough money to get married and get you out of your parents house all of those things really scare all men although they will never admit it to anyone I would get on his butt about this internet it is a form of cheating and he is in no position to be doing this but I would be firm but not postal and just ask him why alot of men feel left out when their women are pregnant look at it you get all the attention and gifts and stuff so I guess they worry about all the many things they worry about but hopefully it'll all go away when the new baby arrives I wish you luck all in your life.

Answer 6

It's been 5 years babes, you have to expect things to dry up a bit.It's not any1 fault it just happens what you need to figure out is if the problem Lay's with you, It's always best to eliminate yourself first.So OK if it's him, then try talking with him a relationship needs some kind of communication.When you say he lied did you have proof he lied or do you just assume?Your pregnant babes, and as much as he may be the problem you must give yourself a break too.Talk to him Sarah, find out how he feels.Listen to what he has to say and don't let him bury his head in the sand because men do that and it makes you feel like you need to sort it out when it should not be like that.The fact of the matter is it's 5 yrs down the line you have kids which must be your main priority, if you can't sort it out and become stronger admit it.Life is 2 sort to be unhappy!You deserve some1 who knows your worth,get back to me tell me how it goes take care.

Answer 7

I hate to sell out a fellow guy but the bottom line is yes, he is almost definately cheating. your 9 months pregnant, he wants sex and he isn't getting it from you. Relationships always change, they don't stay as hot and passionate as when they are new but they doesn't mean they can't be good. If you've been with him for 5 years and already have a kid together and another on the way, how come you aren't married yet? Sounds like a really bad situation in general!

Answer 8

You are going to have to sit him down and have a serious talk with him! Of course you have gone off sex, what does he expect when you are 9month pregnant? Point out to him how being pregnant changes your hormones and that belly is his son or daughter due any day and you need his support more now than ever. 2 children, both his? He needs to start to be more responsible and look after all three of you!

Answer 9

Why do you keep having kids with a guy you aren't married to and has no committment to you?

A boyfriend is not a committment. You need a husband to raise those kids.

Of course he's not the same person he was 5 years ago, neither are you. People grow and change. A married couple grows together normally as long as communication is good between them.

What do you mean you "went off sex"? You quit having sex with him suddenly after 5 years? Of course he's looking elsewhere then.

Answer 10

Maybe your friend is doing your boyfriend. His behavior would indicate one of four things: (!) sudden onset of psychiatric illness, (2) some life-changing event that takes his attention away, such as a new and time-consuming job, or family problems, (3) he is indeed cheating on you and hopes you break up with him, or (4) he has some other reason for wanting to break up with you and he hopes you do it for him. If he does want to break up, this is the phase where he begins to separate himself from you, realizing what will be coming down, all while you don't know what is going on. My instinct would be to dump him now, catching him off-guard, and move on.

Answer 11

Hello Honey,
He very probably is cheating, and you are right to doubt him just now, you should talk with him, even though you are in the position you are in, he has to realise his priorities, and come to terms with the fact that you are the real mother of his two VERY REAL babies. you have to know where you stand with this lad, and remind him gently but firmly of his responsibilities, it's no good going off at the deep end, your body worked the miracle of life for his efforts, it is well past time his body realised how that miracle happens, because if he doesn't, you are going to end up, however temporarily, with 2 lovely, but fatherless babies.
I do so hope you can get your problem sorted out soon. So bless you in your moments of not knowing what or who he is at. Good luck Honey.~~~x~~~ Tony M