She denies visitation for no reason and is holding him hostage and emails me her new bf is his father now. I'm tryin but i can't get in my sons life and I'm worried he won't recongize me. He's only 14 months
2007-02-14 09:25:16 · 8 answers · asked by dirbe22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends on how crazy she acts and how much evidence you can collect. E-mails certainly are a good start. You should also record your phone conversations provided this is legal in the state where you reside.
You will have to hire an attorney. There is no way around it, unless social services removes the child from her home.
What you need to do is to decide that this is going to be very, very difficult and decide if you are going to go through with it anyway. Even if you cannot win, you can one day tell your child you did everything humanly possible.
2007-02-14 09:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Greg H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
courts will never deny a father who actually wants to be a part of his childs life. you can definitely fight for visitation and possibly even joint custody depending on your living/financial situation. You would have a better case if you pay child support though but make sure you use checks or money orders and always keep the receipts that way when you DO go to court you have a way to prove you have been making payments.
It would take a really good reason for them to take a child that small away from their mother, crazy or not, unless she is abusive or on drugs you would be better off trying for visitation or joint custody.
good luck
2007-02-14 17:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by theburlaces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you saved all those e-mails? That would be a great thing for you to take to court. You need to file in court to assert your rights for visitation. I would also seek some legal advice on what your chances are in attaining full custody. If you have documentation that she in not fully balanced, then you may have a chance. You definitely should start a log of calls and document any physical communication she has with you. I hope you do everything you can to remain the father figure in you child's life. My dad was a dead beat, You sound like a real catch.
Good luck
Tracylyn S
2007-02-14 17:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nearly impossible. Unless you can provide concrete evidence that she is abusing your son or is abusing drugs or is mentally ill. You need to prove her unfit and that your son is in an endangering environment. Even if you cannot gain full, go for joint custody and visitation rights. You will probably end up with child support payments, but its fair if you gain what you want, then youll have a say so in your sons life. Once a court order is written and if she violates it, dont be afraid to run her back into court for it. Time for some tough love. Good luck
2007-02-14 17:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless her "craziness" endangers the child it doesn't really mean anything. The court is slow to take a child from the home they live in.
2007-02-14 17:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by anjazarovitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to domestics in your city and start paying child support and arrange visitation . she can't deny you ur child. i really hate chicks like this. i wish you the best. also document all of ur attempts to see him. make sure you go in w/ proof whatever you do. also save any receipts you have from taking care of him so you have that proof as well if she tries to say you don't take of him. take care.
2007-02-14 17:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,
You need to get you a lawyer if you don't have one; but I think that she is trying to blackmail you with this situation.
2007-02-14 17:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE GET AN ATTORNEY... ASAP... She has to abide by the court's ruling and if she tries to disappear. That's called kidnapping and is a jail time to boot.
2007-02-14 17:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Helen A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋