My daughter turned 5 a week ago and I got her a pair of SUNSPARKLE UGGS and she goes up to me and asks if I can get her a pair of chocolate classic tall uggs. I accidently said yes and now she is really exited. WHAT SHOULD I DO.
2007-02-14 09:24:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Tell her that you spoke too fast and didn't mean to say yes to the new Uggs...... because they are expensive, her feet will grow fast, whatever. Sure she'll be disappointed, but that's the way life is, and at 5, she's old enough to know that she can't get everything she wants. Maybe you can soften the blow by doing something girlie with her- getting a manicure, or just a "girls only" lunch, bake cookies, or just something fun and simple.
2007-02-14 09:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake in telling her yes, treat this as a learning experience for her. Tell her that sometimes people say things without thinking. Admit your mistake so she can learn from it, at the same time explain to her why you made the mistake. She needs to know that all people make mistakes, even parents. Teach her by example about how to best resolve a problem like this. Explain to her that you understand how she's disappointed, but that sometimes in life you can't get everything you want. Provide an example to her of something that you would like 2 of (the more expensive and ridiculous the more obvious it will be to her in her small head), but that you can't afford to get both or that sometimes ONE thing is all we really need even if we'd like more.
2007-02-14 19:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you told her yes, now you have to do it. In the future, though, you should probably think before you speak. How do you "accidently say yes"?
Requiring that she work to earn them (what the heck are uggs???) is a great idea.
2007-02-14 19:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get sucked into the whole "Well I said yes, so I can't say no now" and your kid is gonna run you!!! All you have to do is think about it. Do you want to be the parent that you see who says "no honey, sorry you can't have that, we can't afford it at this time", and then your child says "ok, but can I get something we can afford?"? Or do you want to be the parent who says "yes honey, you can have anything you want", so you make that true all the time? Or do you want to the parent woh says "no honey, I know I said yes, but...", que the crying screaming child, "but you said I can! I want it and I want it now!!!" Nightmare kids! Honestly, I can't stand how parents give in to their kids so easily! I'm only 23! When I have kids, its going to be NO NO NO! When I was a kid (and still, to this day) "grownups" have always taught me that "You don't always get what you want", but it seems this message has been lost among today's society!
2007-02-14 17:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
she will be disappointed when you tell her you will not get them for her and you said yes by mistake, but she will get over it quickly. What 5 year old really cares that much about the shoes on their feet? I wouldn't feel too bad about it, just tell her it was a mistake and she will grow out of them in a few months anyways probably
2007-02-14 17:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Laura T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can get uggs at http://urlx.org/directtrack.com/94bab , all you have to do is fill out the survey and you will recieve them. My sister got her uggs from that site and all she had to do was enter in her email address.
2007-02-16 13:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she has to wait longer cause they are all out right now.
I know you shouldn't lie to your kids, but if you really feel like your in a spot, try it.
2007-02-14 18:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kookie Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her she'll only get them if she earns them, make her do more chores around the house, but you can't just tell her no. be more careful next time
2007-02-14 17:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you told her you would, you need to. and realize your mistake for next time. you have to follow through on what you tell a child they need to know they can dependon you and what you say is the truth.
2007-02-14 17:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2mymonkeys 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uh, just tell her no, and not right now........you are the parent
2007-02-14 17:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋