me n my bf split up in septemba but since then weve still been seein eachother alot and are still sleepin together!!! we argue quite alot and i always seem to accuse him of cheatin even though i no he has always been faithful n wud never cheat!!! i just dont like some of the people he hangs around wiv as one of them is a heavy drug user and his other mate has a younger sista who has a friend wiv a bit of a repuatation... ive seen her flirtin n chattin up my bf so i no she does it around him n i dont like it. i really love him and i want him back, hes given me a last chance to change my attitude and the way i act... what shall i do? shall i change my attitude n the way i act for the one person i really do love or just move on?
2007-02-14 09:20:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know exactly where you are at & it is so hard to not act like that especially when there are so many bad people out there that dont care who they hurt. I can only assume that it goes a little something like this, when you are with your ex & he reassures you that he wont get weak & give himself to the cheap tarts out there then you are fine but when you are apart & you see the way other people behave you cant stop thinking that your mans fell by the wayside! it is a vicous circle because you end up having to hassle him again just to make sure but you & you only can break this cycle,be strong girl & dont say if this & if that happens just live day to day & learn to make the most of each day you are with him. Take it from a person who shares your weaknesses, everything will be ok.good luck.keep us updated.
2007-02-14 09:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is hard because you should never change yourself for anyone or you'll end up resenting that person because you can't be yourself. Just because a person hangs around with people who are so called "playa's" and "drug users" doesn't mean that they themself will be one. My fiancee hangs around with a lot of his friends that are unfaithful to their wives, but I know that he does not cheat. I trust him. That's important. He tells me all the time that he loves me and would never cheat on me and he tells me that he can't ever bring himself to cheat because of the fact I have so much trust in him. I know it will be hard but just relax a little and let the man be him. All you have to do is be there and give the man a little trust. If he loves you as much as you love him, he won't cheat or do anything to hurt you. If he does, then move on. Give him the benefit of the doubt until he proves otherwise. Good luck!!!
2007-02-14 09:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u know he would never cheat, so why accuse him all the time? u are actually putting the thought into his head and he may one day turn round and say 'am being accused for cheating when am not cheating, so why not do it anyway?' learn to trust him.
grab this chance u are being given. change ur attitude and the way u act cos u love him. if u don't change for him, u will meet someone else and u gonna have to change anyway cos u can't keep on accusin people of something they haven't done esp when u know they will never do what u accusin them of.
2007-02-14 10:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by rambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him near one day and tell him ur dislikes,so his answer will determine whether he likes/loves u or not and besides that u said u've broke up since september and u are still having fun together it is against the law of dating.and if u want him why dont u change ur behaviour to be humble coz a lady/girlfriend who obey our(men)we take to the altar for marriage,change if u love him.
2007-02-14 09:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by olawale michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you relli love him, then why do u keep accusing him of cheating if you said he has always been faithful. If he really loves you, hang on to him and he wouldnt just cheat on you if he loved you. The girl is probly just jealous..dont let her bug you.......just keep doin what ur doing~!
xoxo good luck
2007-02-14 09:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by swimchicka2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he's not cheating on you, why do you keep accusing him of it? Falsely accusing one's SO of something is a guaranteed relationship killer. Tell him what's *really* bothering you in a non-threatening way. ("I feel __ when __." "I'm worried that __." &c.) Just remember that you can't change what he does, only what you do.
2007-02-14 09:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Robin the Brave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start, are you REALLY in love with him? If so, you need to talk to him and tell him exactly what you told us.
About his friend, if she is on drugs when she is flirting with your boyfriend then she probably doesn't mean anything that she says to him. And if your boyfriend doesn't do drugs, then theres a good chance that he knows that his friend doesn't meany any of it.
If my advice doesn't solve your problem, feel free to email me.
- The Date Doctor
2007-02-14 09:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do in these situations is to follow your heart, I know that is corney, but it is true. You shouldn't over-analyse everything and just do what come naturally.
2007-02-14 09:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be proud of the person you are,he has no right to give you this ultimatem,yes you may want him back but you are who you are and he has no right to try to change you/the person you are is very unique and special,im not sure that a person can really change who they are i think sooner or later that person will surface anyway................good luck
2007-02-14 09:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on take a few spelling
lessons will take your mind
off him
2007-02-14 09:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by S Csparky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋