I hate this day, its the day I split with my ex wife & every year as St. Valentines day approaches I feel the black clouds of gloom rising in my mind.
How do I stop this feeling like this every year & turn it round??
2007-02-14 09:13:43 · 10 answers · asked by thunor 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Why? It is in the past. You are letting the break up rule your life. Even if you think it only bothers you on Valentine's day.....you're wrong. You let it go by realizing YOUR part in the break up (it can't be all her fault...it's both) and fixing it. Don't get into another relationship until you are happy with yourself being alone. Another person cannot make you happy or relieve the pain from your past relationship.
2007-02-14 09:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a point that every Valentine's Day, you offer your time at a shelter, hosiptal, or another charity. You will feel better by helping others. It will also keep your mind busy so you're not thinking about it. Remember, you're allowing this to control you. Just let go.
2007-02-14 17:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by punchy333 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me to advise on how to change a negative into a positive is for me a collosal jump in the right direction.
I too have downers so here we go....
If you have a certain date that causes a lot of pain then do something positive on or around this date.
Go on holiday
Go on a day trip to London or wherever. Do something that will occupy your mind.
Or better still go on a singles holiday around this date.
Hope it helps
2007-02-15 08:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by davie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand...believe me i know that on days like these it's very difficult not to feel lonely, incomplete...............Oooh jeese i think I'm makin myself feel worse lol, anyway just remember why things didn't work out in the first place. U need.....we need to leave it in the past in order to give ourselves the opportunity we deserve to find someone who we can be truly happy with. U never no wat 2marrow will bring!! Happy St. Valentines Day xXx
2007-02-14 17:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by RoxXx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
negatives are there to highlight the positives hun.so hold on when you find that someone new who makes your heart skip valentines pleasure will be doubled.leaving you saying wow its good again no more bad ones and wow i love ya my valentine.so the positive is your gonna feel double the joy of the rest of us ya lucky sod!
2007-02-14 17:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something new to do on this day - visit a place you've never been before, take up a new hobby, volunteer at a homeless shelter... something that will do your spirit some good.
2007-02-14 17:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Pangolin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try to maybe fall in love again on this day. Or at least do something fun like speed dating.
2007-02-14 17:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, try to get a new girlfriend
or look at the brightside!! like i always do
my best friend got 300 dollars stolen out of her room and she caled to tell me and we had just gotten done making cookies, so she got to come eat cookies, so looking at the brightside,
1-she looses money
2-she calls me
3-if she didnt call me she wouldnt have gotten any cookies
there ya go
but seriously, try to get a new girlfriend!! it will really lift you spirits
2007-02-14 17:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think about it. Go do something nice for yourself. Dont sulk because this day will be over in a few hours. :)
2007-02-14 17:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by DAT CHICK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
know matter what it is.think it could of been worse.
2007-02-15 01:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by peter o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋