hey do you think this is ok to do?

Question

my mom and dad think its ok to make me stay home and watch there kids every weekend so they can go to bars and for me to clean the house well me and my sister i also have to brothers but they dont have to help cause there boys and i dont even get payd for it and my perants dont do any thing well my dad goes to work but my mom dosent she just watches tv all day while im at school then i come home and clean and watch kids is this fair and when ever i say it isnt they get mad and ground me or yell at me plz answer

im almost 16 but they go out every weekend cause my dad is in a band he has been even before i was born and my sister is 18 almost and i have no friends because they would want me to come over but i couldnt cause i had to watch the kids my sister gets to go out with her friends cause shes older

oh i forgot my mom says that i am the one who has to do it cause its not her job to clean because she gave us life and then tells us to leave her alone

Answer 1

Not fair! I am sorry your parent fill up all your time with chores and resposibilities that belong to them. Sounds horible. You should get at least allowance? I mean my daughter does a lot around the house, but I work and dad works and we are home on the weekends (Most weekends) she has no other kids left at home to watch, (She is the youngest of 6) but this is outrageous for your parents to go to bars all weekend and leave you at home with kids to watch all the time. It may even be considered a form of child neglect. I think you should speak with a grand parent and other people in the family about how you are feeling and let them know what is going on. If that is not an option then tell you teacher of someone at school. You need some family counseling and your parents should be spanked. I hope your parents wake up soon and see they are the parents not you.
Your problem is so common of selfish parents of the new ME ME ME Generation. They are raising kids that raise themselves and that is why we are having so many problems with our teens these days. Remember you are smart and you are not going to have to live there forever. Also remember not to take it out on you little brothers and sister, it is not their fault that your parents are lazy and refuse to take on their responsibilities to all of you.
Best wishes A mom of 6 who works full time and still gets it done without shoving it down my daughters throat.
Tracylyn S

Answer 2

no, it's not ok. i went through almost the exact thing growing up except my mom was home all the time while i had to watch the kids and clean. she never went hardly anywhere, just kept having kids and made me take care of them. i do resent her to this day but, i did turn out to be a good mom and i have a great relationship with my three grown up kids. my brothers hold alot of resentment for my mom and as for my sister, she's as bad a mom as our mom was. she never had to lift a finger all the time that she was growing up. so the good news is, it made me want to be a better mom, the bad news is, i didn't have much of a childhood. just do the right thing and when you're a little older it'll make you a better person.

Answer 3

To an extent its fair. Helping out with the cleaning is good and watching the kids are good. How old are you? You shouldn't have to watch, clean the kids all the time. Your parents going out ocassionaly is okay, but not every weekend. Your brothers should help you out. I know how you feel I clean all the time while my mom works. You need time to be a kid yourself and your parents need to be responsible adults

Answer 4

You know its wrong- I'm not saying that you shouldn't help out- what I am saying is that its not fair for a young girl to do all the work every weekend- the house chores should be distributed among all family members- your mom should be reminded of this- also the boys should help out- that won't make them less men in the future.

Answer 5

I think helping with those things is ok, but doing them all by yourself isn't right. I think they should at least give you an allowance for all you do at home. Maybe you could talk to your Dad about it since he is the one with the job. I'd tell him that you don't mind helping but you feel like all the responsibility is on you right now. They should work something out with you. I hope they will understand. Good luck!

Answer 6

If you really think you're being mistreated, pick up your local phone book, and look up Children and Family Services. It's probably in the blue pages in the front. Explain the situation to them, and if it's real abuse or neglect they will investigate.

There's a difference between neglect and having kids help out, however, and it's hard to tell from your run-on venting which it is.

Answer 7

This is definitely not okay. Your parents created their children; therefore, caring for the children is their responsibility. I think that an older child should only have to watch the younger ones if they are paid for it. Too often do parents use their older children as free babysitters, and it's disgusting. Apparently, they were not ready to have children because they are not responsible enough to take care of them. If they need a babysitter, they should hire a babysitter.

Answer 8

it's not ok and brothers should deffinatly help
it will help them grow to be better men
and not thinking girls should do all the house work.and show them more respect. didn't hurt me at all growing up
we all had our chores and switched them so everyone knew what the others had to do. including sewing :) and i'm a male
i think it made us better adults.and of course you shouldn't have to baby sit every weekend

Answer 9

No I don't think that it is fair, but there may not be much you can do about it. Maybe talking to another family member might help, maybe they can talk to your parents without you getting into trouble.

Answer 10

No it isn't ok. You're their child not their slave. I would talk to a school counselor or another adult. Its a form of child abuse what they are doing to you. You're a kid and should be able to enjoy your childhood. Good luck.