There is an age difference, but doesn't matter to me. We've known each other for two years. I work with him and sometimes I act different around him, because he knows that I like him, but not that I love him. Our friendship is in jeopordy, because he has someone else, and that hurts me. I have a feeling, he feels the same way, but he is a good guy and feels that some feelings don't last. I know him, and sometimes I see myself in him. He sets a bar for all the guys I will ever be with and that scares me. He is more important than my hopes and dreams, and I can't even tell him or show him, and that's hard for me to deal with, what should I do, how should I feel?
2007-02-14 08:58:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't tell him that you think he is your soulmate, and honestly I do not mean to make this sound bad, but that most likely will sound very odd to him. He has a girlfriend and is where he wants to be.
You could tell him that you admire him and that you see in him what you hope to find in a future relationship. That wouldn't be too bad. Because really, you can use him as a bar for what you look for in a man. There is nothing wrong with that.
2007-02-14 09:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soulmates aren't necessary romantic partners so if he is a soulmate of yours that doesn't mean you are meant to be lovers, just that you share a connection. If he doesn't feel the same though, then it's not a soulmate situation.
Since he's got someone else though, no matter your level of attraction for him, leave it be. Would you want someone trying to break up you and your guy?
Treat others as you'd want to be treated...if he's really that into you then he'll take the steps to get involved with you. Otherwise, realize the situation isn't going to work out and you need to move on.
2007-02-14 09:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, puppy love. How cute. I can't even remember how many times I was in 'love' with someone i barely knew when I was a kid. How can you possibly be in love with someone you haven't even dated? And obviously he isn't into you if he started dating someone else, and it sounds like he was trying to let you down easily by saying that 'some feelings don't last'. Get over it- you'll survive. "Soulmates" is a stupid hallmark term, and it dosen't mean anything. Being in love is a commitment- you have to work at it, and the person you end up with is just a best friend- someone you actually connect with. Soulmates is a stupid term, and it gives people very unrealistic ideas about love. Get over it- he isn't intrested, or the age gap does actually matter to him. Pish.
2007-02-14 09:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, let him know that the friendship is most important. Life is too short to not say anything. You may never feel the same way toward anyone else.Is it more physical attraction or the whole package? Feelings sometimes do change, but up to the couple to keep that spark alive. Tell him. You will regret it later if you don't. Timing is important. Good luck.
2007-02-14 09:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by sambgood05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two choices! You get your personal ship together and tell the guy exactly how you feel. Even if he doesn't feel the same way, you put the ball in his court. The other choice is to move on and spend the rest of your life wanting a man whose affections were never determined because you lacked the courage to put it on the line.
2007-02-14 09:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only push the issue if you feel you're capable of accepting rejection. Sure, he may actually have feelings for you, but you may not know exactly how far they extend. Can you live with this mistake? Can you let go?
As you have determined you have some sort of magical connection with some one, I'd wager this may not be the case. This answer probably isn't the one you want to hear, but not being prepared to accept failure would be foolish.
2007-02-14 09:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by zargonofb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has someone else it's to late. Don't set yourself up fo the hurt that will take place. You could tell him and what will end up happening is he will tell you everything you want to hear just to make a score with you. Don't forget you have to wake up tomorrow and face the world and he will be right back with the person he is currently with. He is going to hurt you! Please don't let it happen. Mr Right is out there but you have to open your eyes and heart in order to find him. Close your eyes to Mr. Wrong. If it was suppose to have happened it would have happened long ago before he had found someone else. Please don't do this to yourself.....!!!!!
2007-02-14 09:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to tell him!!! Or for the rest of your life you will never know what could of happened!! Just tell him you dont mean to get in the middle but your feelings are something that you cant just put aside!! If you love him then let him know!! Good luck!! I hope everything works out!!
2007-02-14 09:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by LaRiSsA33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date around. If you are meant to be with him, you will eventually end up with him. Don't worry about what happens in between. There are a lot of guys better than him, but you just haven't made the effort to get to know them or even meet them. You're missing out on life waiting for this guy who may turn out to be a bust in the end.
2007-02-14 09:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may feel that he is your soul mate but if he hasn't showed you anything more than friendship or ever mentioned having feelings for you, then he's just not into you. He doesn't think you are his soul mate or he would have made an advance. Cut your losses and move on.
2007-02-14 09:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by shedevilnotunknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋