How to deal with the same recurring problem....?

Question

I am almost ready to give up on my boyfriend and I don't know what to do.

We keep having the same recurring conversations about how he treats me and how I want more than what he is giving. He says that "maybe" we can see each other tomorrow and he will "try" to see me on Sunday. There's nothing going on to stop him from being with me and making concrete plans with me.

Earlier, I told him that I am nearing the end and that I love him but I feel myself closing him off emotionally. But he continues to be the same way.

I don't feel like seeing him at all now. I don't know how to deal with feeling like I'm not important to him. He thinks I'm overreacting.

Answer 1

As much as I can totally understand how you are feeling, you just might be over reacting. Men want and need love just as much as us women do. Although they feel more at ease in the middle from a level of a comfort zone, one level far off to the left being attachment, and the right side being detachment. They are more comfortable being in between the two. If taken too far off to attachment may make them feel uncomfortable, vulnerable, overwhelmed by being too close to the female. If too far off to detachment, this can cause them fear of rejection, being alone. If you understand this, then you can understand why he draws more away from you than towards you. Try pulling away, not needing him so much, and in time he will feel more comfortable with getting closer to you. Honest, this works. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Been there, done that. I finally hit my point and broke up with her. You know how I reasoned it?? It will only get worse. End it now and move on. If he cared about you, he would listen to your needs and change. Would you change for someone you loved? I would.

Answer 3

Find someone else. He should make you feel like you are the most important person in the world (& vise versa). If this isn't happening, leave.

Answer 4

the subsequent time you get a suicide digital mail, reply then do it and provide us all spoil. worked for my ex husband even as he went on his fifth pity party. through no potential went down that highway decrease lower back. now and reduce lower back you isn't waiting to be intense effective. truly make functional this human being does no longer recognize the position you stay. you ought to record the emails as threats to the police.

Answer 5

It's only gonna get worse, just end it now so you won't have to deal with it later... he obviously doesn't care about your r-ship enough to work on it, so just let him do his selfish things and you move on...