Me & Nick have just started going out yesterday and we talk but thats it. we havent hugged or kissed or even said I LOVE YOU. am i rushing things? im rlly confused because i rlly like him and i am wondering if he likes me, everyone sayd he does but im not sure, all we do i talk about the randomest stuff and nothing else and it kinda hurts me because couples are supposed to show love for eachother but we hvent rlly done that. im nervous about kissing him because it will be my first kiss but i still want to i have braces and he doesnt. im not even sure if its me , is it him thats shy or me or BOTH. i rlly hope he loves me like i love him, i might be going away tomorrow for winter break and i want to kiss him before then, my mother doesntlet me date but i still go out with him behind her back and because if she finds out shell make me break up with him and i dont wanna do that, this is hurting me alittle i am 13 years old and i want my very first kiss with him. plz help me with this mess.
2007-02-14 08:41:31 · 22 answers · asked by Im So In Love With Him. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you just started going out with him, there's no reason to say "i love you" yet, b/c you don't love him.. you're infatuated with him and you like the idea of him, but you don't love him so stop rushing everything.. and you haven't hugged or kissed yet for the same reason... geez girl, slow down and take a breath or two...
2007-02-14 08:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just started going out yesterday? You're only 13?
S L O W D O W N.
You're going to scare him away.
No matter what see happen in movies or 1/2 hour sitcoms, relationships take time to grow and mature. If you are looking for a loving commited relationship on the first date... You're going to be seriously hurt.
Step back. Do you make best freinds in one day? Nope. Takes time to consider someone a best freind.
Same thing goes with dating. You go on a date to see if you want to go on a second date. A second date to see if you want to go on a 3rd...
When I was single I took a lot of women on just one date. Only a handlefull made it to a second. Only three made it past three dates and only two of them did I share a committed relationship with. I married the last one...
Here's how I think you should look at dating. The goal of going on a date is to make a freind. If, after a date, all you have is a freind, then you have acheived the goal. If it doesn't go any farther than that, at least all you were shooting for was a freind. If it does go further, at least you started the relationship as freinds...
You're 13, he's got to be around the same age. Let me tell you, he doesn't even know what he wants...
So relax. Enjoy each other's company. Be freinds.
A~
2007-02-14 16:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. One or two days is not very long in the life of a reltionship. You need to get to know each other and talk about all the random things before you can get more serious...but you're 13!! You don't need a serious relationship. A first kiss would be nice I'm sure, but you don't want to rush things and then regret anything. Enjoy the feelings, but try not to stress or rush (guy don't tend to like that).
2007-02-14 16:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Eleanor H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both are nervous. First off both of you are inexperianced. At least go out an entire year before deciding to gve him one of your firsts. At least that's my rule on things. Really, if you decide to rush things like this, even if you think you wont have sex at this age you may get caught up in the moment, then you're gong to end up with at the very least, losing a major first. More than that you can end up with a kid.
Yes I know, psycho speech. But really you are inexperianced hell, even I am and I'm near 20. When I look back over this last year, I experianced alot in relationships. So say that much for every year between 20 and 13, is a massive amount that I've learned in between.
2007-02-14 17:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by rezruf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i would never ever say i love u 2 ne 1 and im 13 so but the hug thing all u have 2 do is hig him and he will hug u bac and 4 the kiss first jus peck on the cheak and he will get the idea that u want 2 go father so i hope that helps
2007-02-14 16:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by fuzzy_bubbles_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been "going out" for one day! Give it some time! This isn't a mess except for the fact that you are way to young to be thinking about this kind of stuff. Get to know each other before you start sucking face and hanging all over him.
You don't know what love is at this point, you will go through many boys before you find the one who steals your heart. Relax and enjoy getting to know him.
2007-02-14 16:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I understand the whole mom thing. the same thing happens to me, and I am 12, but I had my first kiss when I was 10! but i think you are rushing things because how do you know that you love him if you started dating yesterday? you just have to wait and see. it may take awhile because I started dating on V-day in 5th grade, and I was with the guy for 1 1/2 years, but I never loved him. you have to be with the perfect guy to love them. don't rush it though.
2007-02-14 16:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by BAMBI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here ill help you because im not that older than you. im only 14 but will be 15 in 3 months. save yourself girl! dont give it all away at the first shot. give it a while. you did say that you just got with him. give him a week or two. he'll losen up. he is probably still wondering about the idea of having a gf. dont worry though. just give him a hug for when he goes away. you dont want to get in trouble either. and let me tell you something.... i have only had two bf's and at first i thought i loved them too. i didnt. i wanted to kiss them the first three days that we were together but thank god i saved myself. as you can tell, i havent had my first kiss yet. this kiss is your first and its supposed to be special. save it and if in a month or a couple of weeks you still feel the same, give it a shot. my suggestion is to save yourself for a special moment. you cant unravel the whole shabang in one day. Best of luck though <33
2007-02-14 16:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by starstatus586 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all, you guys just started going out yesterday. I didn't get to kiss my boyfriend until we were a week into our relationship. I think you might be going alittle fast, becauase saying "I love you" is a really important line and it takes a while to fall in love with someone. Just take your time and watch the relationship grow. It'll happen over time
2007-02-14 16:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Caitie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all chill out. secondly enjoy it while you can but love is too strong a word youll scare him off if you say this word so dont. thirdly the kiss wil happen when you are both ready relax girl or youll get your heart broken
2007-02-14 16:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by karen l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋