I have this friend who is really nice. However, she does one thing that is starting to annoy me. She will talk about people's backs. We had lunch with this guy who was really nice. However, when I walked her to her next class she said that person is probably homosexual because he was so nice and he said he has lots of female friends. This is not the only time she said something like this. I feel uncomfortable discussing this issue as well as annoyed. What can I say to my friend to make her to stop talking about this issue everytime she suspects someone might be a homosexual?
2007-02-14 08:24:27 · 7 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tell her, so what if he is? If she has a problem with homosexuals she'll have to know you don't, and if she knows she'll probably stop talking about it. If she's just talking about it in a human-interest way rather than judgemental (some people are just extremely curious about people's personal lives, and may come across as more judgemental than they really intend to be), then you can also tell her you don't feel comfortable discussing such personal things, or perhaps she can let you know that it's 'just gossip' and not meant as harmful or judgemental... Anyhow I really think you should let her know you don't like it, people aren't telepathic!
2007-02-15 00:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are taking her word for it, or at least appearing to agree with her.
Next time she makes a comment you don't agree with, tell her that you don't agree and stand-up for the person being discussed if you feel in your heart that it isn't true.
It's so easy to point out a persons flaws, even when the flaw is imagined, but it seems to be harder to find something nice to say.
2007-02-14 16:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by fizzents 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is very immature for one. Try tellng her to talk about something she actually knows about, and that you were not aware she was an expert on homosexuality. That ought to shut her up. In the meantime, try to get yourself some better friends who have more in life to do than gossip.
2007-02-14 16:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could sit down with her and talk about your concerns. Tell her that you don't feel comfortable talking about nice people behind their backs. Since your friend will probably say something like, "You do whatever you want.", tell her you don't hang out with people like that. If that still doesn't work, don't worry about it. You're better off without "friends" like that!
2007-02-14 16:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by ashie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes your friend. Simply say "stop talking about people". I personally think its rude. Whatever her response, take it from there.
2007-02-15 12:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say something like "would it matter if he was?" His sexual orientation doesn't change who he is. So just tell her that you think he's a nice guy and don't care what his sexual orientation is so she should just stop bringing it up.
2007-02-14 16:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the negativity really bums you out and you really like hanging out with her, but...
2007-02-14 16:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋